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Resilience

This is a word that I had and still do struggle to come to terms with every now and then.

I’m the sort of girl that wants to be resilient through everything, push through the hard days, hold a straight face at rude clients and keep my head high when I do something wrong.

But, truth is I do struggle every now and then. But I’m human, we all do.

Today at work I witnessed someone have a bit of a breakdown, and I felt that. I haven’t had one (at least not publicly at work🥴) but I empathised with that on a level!

It made me realise how good it is sometimes to cry it out, to get rid of all that stress and built up emotion in one big wave… then it crashes down onto the shore and you feel a little more at peace again.

Sometimes it’s like that, we want to be strong and resilient through it all but we must remember that it’s okay to have a moment every now and then.

Today I was reading a really amazing blog about female entrepreneurs, and you know what I was super inspired by these women.

It made me realise that my resilience and faith in the not yet seen must be super strong in times like this.

Times of uncertainty and change are some of the greatest times in our lives, we’re bound to have wobbles. But it’s the faith, it’s the reliance that keeps us going and that’s what makes an entrepreneur and that’s everything I inspire to become!

On my morning walk today I listened to a new podcast, I can’t remember the dudes name but regardless of that he was speaking about the difference between FAITH and CONFIDENCE.

He was explaining how we may not always have the confidence to do things, we may never have the confidence to do something. But that doesn’t matter, because if you have faith that everything is going to work out you will be RESILIENT and you will make it work.

That’s something I will try to live by now, because if you’re constantly waiting for that confidence to do something, there’s a good chance it’ll never come. There’s too many ‘what ifs’.

If you have faith, anything is possible, and faith makes you resilient.

All my love,

HG

A fresh Start – Resolutions

Good evening beautiful humans, I hope you’ve all had an amazing day! Today was the first day back at work doing a full shift, we’d been finishing earlier for Christmas all of last week so today did feel slightly longer. But I’m feeling super motivated recently, all because we’re moving into a new year and a fresh start…

Do you believe in resolutions? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with them, however I do think a tendency for a lot of the population is to make these resolutions to better ourselves and we start off great, were working hard and pushing ourselves and then it’s almost as though the novelty wears off and things slow down and eventually we lose the habit we were never able to build to achieve the things we really wanted to.

It’s happened to me too, I mean I was saying all of last year how badly I wanted to renovate my bedroom and never did it, even when I started earning more, for some reason it was never one of my top priorities. Why? Because I didn’t put in the time, I didn’t make the effort to manifest this and make it a reality.

This month, no matter what, I will be starting this goal of mine. I may be slightly poor for January because of it but the sense of satisfaction I will feel once completed will be wayyyyy worth it.

What’s one of your resolutions? I mean, a cliche one would be to live a healthier lifestyle right? You know, I get people on a regular basis ask me how I stay healthy and why I eat clean and how I go to the gym every day. It’s all about developing habits, which isn’t easy, because you have to be motivated.

Resolutions are just resolutions. Goals are just goals… unless you put in the time and are prepared to motivate yourself to get the results you wish for! It’s easy really, you just have to remind yourself daily, keep yourself inspired, talk about your goals with others, motivate each other whatever it is that will keep you centered and focused.

For me, like many people I write a list of all my resolutions; setting them out into travel achievements, material achievements and personal achievements that I would like to meet. Once I’ve done this I create a vision board, envision those things you want to achieve, what will you be doing, how will you be feeling, what will you be wearing, who will be around you?

I think vision boards are amazing, because when your mind can envision exactly what it is you desire, it gives it something to work toward, the Universe will naturally help you manifest these things.

After this, every day, and I mean every single day I will write a list of things I want to achieve. These are what I would consider my ‘baby steps’ these are the small achievements that take me to the big goals that were on the resolution list.

By continually referring back to the resolution list daily when writing these this will help you stay on track, focused and determined.

Something else to take into consideration is that you can treat every day as a fresh start! If one day doesn’t go as planned, don’t give up and break that habit. Remember that tomorrow is a new day, it’s a day to reinvent yourself, there’s always a chance to change, usually it’ll be yourself that’s getting in your way.

Get writing your resolutions if you haven’t already and set them in motion, it’s time to make our 2020 visions a reality.

All my love,

HG

What Christmas is really all about…

Good evening beautiful world and Merry Christmas to you all. We’re coming to the end of one of the most widely celebrated events of the year, so I’m sure we’re all on a little come down to be honest! You know, I think it’s crazy how Christmas is one of those rare holidays that the majority of the population celebrate (I know not all religions and beliefs celebrate and that’s totally cool too). Across the world on this one special day, for once we’re all on the same page.

Now I know what you’re thinking – this is going to be one of those cliché posts about how Christmas isn’t about the gifts and the money spent, it’s all about the people you spend it with and blah blah blah.

And well you’re kind of right kind of wrong.

Sometimes, and I know this may seem a little stupid to some of you – I tend to get a little down over Christmas just due to the immense social pressure that’s built around it.

Especially when you’re younger, everyone’s asking each other what they got and what they did and comparing gifts and whatever.

I don’t know about everyone else but for me as I’ve grown I’ve realised how much of a blessing Christmas is, since it brings everyone together. And I mean everyone! As I said at the beginning of this post, the entire world is celebrating the same thing!

It’s the one opportunity/ excuse (if you like) to come together and express our gratitude for one another. I love that, that’s wholesome and good.

As I’ve said before, I like my designer and there are material things I desire, but for me to satisfy my soul and to make me feel at peace it’s all about the people I spend time with and the love I give and receive.

So for me, Christmas is never about the gifts.

If anything, I’d rather purchase myself the designer items in the future as a mark of my financial achievements in life! After starting my new job I treated myself to a Gucci scarf for no good reason other than I wanted it! It marked a major financial milestone in my success and so I did that for myself!

Christmas isn’t all about the giving of presents. It’s about the giving of love.

Spread it people, there can never be enough.

I hope you’ve all had a lovely holiday, and I wish you all a happy new year! Full of lots of new exciting things, and for one, more blog posts💫✨

All my love,

HG

The City of Love

Good evening everyone, today I wanted to write something a little different. One of my goals for the end of this year was to travel somewhere, I achieved a very big goal this June by travelling to South Africa and back alone, but I wanted to get myself out of the country this winter and I did just that.

You can probably guess by the cliche title where this destination was… of course it was PARIS.

Paris sparked something new in me, every experience in life teaches us new things and this experience made me learn new things about my partner. So here’s me giving some relationship advise for a change rather than talking about myself.

Personally, I am a relationship girl, I easily get on with guys and that’s sometimes a pain since I would love to have more guy friends but they always seem to get the wrong end of the stick, if you know what I mean.

Anyway, recently I came across a famous video of Cher and she had said how ‘men are not a necessity, they are a luxury. Like dessert’ she then proceeded to go on with ‘my experience with men is great because I pick them because I like them, not because I need them...’

And this really resonated with me, you know, some people would consider me very fortunate with the relationship I have with my boyfriend. Because he’s not just my boyfriend, he’s my best friend, my favourite person to do spontaneous stupid shit with, be reckless and enjoy life with.

Paris made me realise how fortunate I am in love, and I believe it all comes from the way I view men. I mean, me and Luke were a complete accident! We met in a club randomly and got together, I intrigued him with my stubbornness to get with him so he asked me on a date and things just sparked.

I think for anyone who’s longing for love out there, patience is key, but also the willingness to give something a try, the willingness to take a risk but don’t put your heart on the line. I didn’t set things off with Luke as though he was going to be my boyfriend, I move to people based on their energy and he buzzes on a high frequency which I vibe with.

Always remember, men are a luxury not a necessity. Love yourself before trying to love someone else, otherwise how are you ever going to give anything to someone when you don’t have it within yourself.

Any love starts from within. You’ll attract what you are.

All my love,

HG

The Soul and the Brain

Hi all, I’m literally typing this on my phone right now because I had a sudden urge to write and that’s a good thing so I’m taking the urge while it’s there!

You know, over this entire year I have learnt more about myself than ever before, and one of the things I have learnt is that I almost have two Egos or two personalities. I call these my soul and my brain or my business mentality.

So my Soul is, of course, the part of me which pursues all the things I love and make me feel good. My soul loves the outdoors, classical music, listening to nature, playing piano and reading historical novels.

These are all things that satisfy the deepest parts of me which few people in my life see, because these are all things I love to do for myself and often by myself. They give me a sense of fulfilment, a sense of lightness in chest, I feel like there are infinite possibilities, a universe at my fingertips to explore.

Beautiful right? And we all have this side to us, you may just not have found what it is your soul most desires yet… and that’s cool. I don’t really know either which is what’s super frustrating when you’re a 19 year old who’s trying to get everything together! But it’s all part of the process and we have to grow to love ourselves.

This other part of me is the business mindset, the brain. I’m also a super competitive person and love the whole concept of business, being under pressure and the man-made world. I’m a sucker for materialism, I love designer and I love fashion, because they make me feel good. I want to be a boss lady, and trust me I will be.

The trouble is these two parts of me are so different I struggle to find a balance. See right now I’m on more of the business path, but sometimes I can’t help but feel disconnected from my spirituality.

It’s super important to stay true to ourselves through everything, and it’s why I ensure to always make time for myself in the day. Whether it’s waking up 2 hours earlier than I need to for work, it’s so worth it! Because it means I can find time to fulfil my soul, and then fulfil the business part of me in my job.

If this is you too, and you can’t seem to find a balance. Keep trying, go with your gut, and what’s meant to be will be. If we trust our souls, and fulfil all parts of ourselves then everything will work out.

Have a beautiful evening my loves, sorry for the randomness of this post!

All my love,

HG

Playing the victim

So, I’d just got in from a really hectic day at work, I was mentally drained, but physically I could run a marathon. So I did… (not quite), but I ran and ran and the rain was pouring, and energy was just pouring out of me.

I got in and didn’t really feel much of a sense of relief, so I decided to have a bath, because if really pushing myself wasn’t going to shake this maybe I should try the opposite right? A bath would calm me and centre me again, and what better thing to do for ultimate relaxation than listen to an inspiring podcast?

I’d put on an episode from Christen Brown on – and if you haven’t heard of this lady I would seriously recomend her, she specialises in relationships but that’s not really what I go to listen to her about. She’s a very centred woman, who has experienced and been through a lot, but she maintains faith with the Universe and she’s all about keeping an eye out for signs that will help guide us on our paths.

In this particular episode, she was explaining how God helps us in mysterious ways, and sometimes if we don’t question the things that happen around us and take them as signs to progress and move forward then we end up playing the victim, our Ego takes over inside and we get all defensive, the ‘I don’t deserve this’ comes forward.

That was it. And at the time in the bath I didn’t realise. But as soon as I went downstairs for dinner I realised there was this knot of tension inside me, I wasn’t myself and I was aware of that and then it clicked. I have been playing the victim this whole time.

I was making it out as though my life was so hard, everything was working against me and it wasn’t fair, I felt mentally and spiritually stuck, I’ve been uninspired to write my blog and I’ve been struggling in my job. I felt like the Universe was against me and in thinking this I was sinking deeper into the mud. I was getting myself even more sticky and stuck, and I wasn’t going anywhere.

If I really thought about it for a second I would realise that the Universe had actually been providing me with everything I had asked for. I had the job, my social life has got 10X better than it used to be. (I mean fuck, when I was in a bad place with anxiety even seeing those people I felt closest to was hard because I had become so insecure.) I have met someone who I’m pretty convinced is the male version of me we get along so well!

In all, I should be really happy. So why wasn’t I? Why wasn’t I progressing?

Because I was playing victim.

It’s time for me to man up, if something isn’t working I really need to put in the time and energy to make something else work that would fulfill me more.

This isn’t me admiting defeat in the respect that I’m going to force myself to pursue something I strongly dislike, this is me telling myself and you too, that there is another way. The Universe is on your side, but the Universe can only do so much.

It will provide you with the ingrediants, but you have to make the cake.

Have a beautiful evening my loves, I hope you enjoyed this post, it’s time to get our mogo on and start inspiring ourselves, bring those frequencies higher and start loving ourselves again. Because we are awesome.

All my love,

HG

Staying motivated in Winter

Good evening beautiful world. It’s cold, dark and a little damp outside, so I think it’s very easy for all of us to sit in and cuddle up on the sofa, forget about our goals, and put off the gym.

In the Northern hemisphere of the Earth were heading into the cooler winter months and for many of us this can be a time when everything seems to stand still, and our motivation crashes.

It’s like the Universe is working against us. We may wake up with the intention to go on a morning run to get a healthy head-start on the day, yet you draw back your curtains and the rains pouring down outside, your heart automatically sinks and you turn back to your bed for that extra 20 minutes of sleep.

I know it’s more challenging to stay mentally focused in these times, whether it’s fitness related or just your goals in general. Personally I’m finding it harder to concentrate at work when the darkenss starts creeping over the sky at just past 4 in the afternoon. It instantly de-motivates me, because mentally I begin to switch off when it’s dark, to me that’s sleepy time!

SO how do we fight this?

This time of the year doesn’t have to be seen as money absorbing and light disolving, it’s a time where you can build your mentality up so well that nothing can get in your way or distract you from your goals. It’s a time that will challenge you in a good way, and will help strengthen that mental bone that weakens when you start to feel a chill in the wind.

Something that I find may be helpful to some, is moving your alarm clock away from your bed so you simply have to get out of bed to wake up in the mornings!

Have your gym clothing layed out before you for when you wake so that you have no choice but to put them on and go ahead and do your thing.

On the days that are sunny (and I know there may be few) do things that you enjoy and appreciate the outdoors. I know this sounds silly, but enjoying a sunny winters day makes me appreciate this season even more, and makes the darker days seem a lot more bearable.

Look after yourself, and don’t let the sickness flue of winter grab hold of you! Perhaps try drinking hot lemon and water daily, or making healthy meals full of vitamins and nutrition to keep your body fueled and strong. Because lets face it, if your body shuts down, you’re going to mentally shut down too!

We’ve got this people, if you have any tips for staying motivated this season please share them below I’d love to read what you have to say! 🙂

All my love,

HG