Good evening everyone, today I wanted to write something a little different. One of my goals for the end of this year was to travel somewhere, I achieved a very big goal this June by travelling to South Africa and back alone, but I wanted to get myself out of the country this winter and I did just that.
You can probably guess by the cliche title where this destination was… of course it was PARIS.
Paris sparked something new in me, every experience in life teaches us new things and this experience made me learn new things about my partner. So here’s me giving some relationship advise for a change rather than talking about myself.
Personally, I am a relationship girl, I easily get on with guys and that’s sometimes a pain since I would love to have more guy friends but they always seem to get the wrong end of the stick, if you know what I mean.
Anyway, recently I came across a famous video of Cher and she had said how ‘men are not a necessity, they are a luxury. Like dessert’ she then proceeded to go on with ‘my experience with men is great because I pick them because I like them, not because I need them...’
And this really resonated with me, you know, some people would consider me very fortunate with the relationship I have with my boyfriend. Because he’s not just my boyfriend, he’s my best friend, my favourite person to do spontaneous stupid shit with, be reckless and enjoy life with.
Paris made me realise how fortunate I am in love, and I believe it all comes from the way I view men. I mean, me and Luke were a complete accident! We met in a club randomly and got together, I intrigued him with my stubbornness to get with him so he asked me on a date and things just sparked.
I think for anyone who’s longing for love out there, patience is key, but also the willingness to give something a try, the willingness to take a risk but don’t put your heart on the line. I didn’t set things off with Luke as though he was going to be my boyfriend, I move to people based on their energy and he buzzes on a high frequency which I vibe with.
Always remember, men are a luxury not a necessity. Love yourself before trying to love someone else, otherwise how are you ever going to give anything to someone when you don’t have it within yourself.
Any love starts from within. You’ll attract what you are.
All my love,