The Soul and the Brain

Hi all, I’m literally typing this on my phone right now because I had a sudden urge to write and that’s a good thing so I’m taking the urge while it’s there!

You know, over this entire year I have learnt more about myself than ever before, and one of the things I have learnt is that I almost have two Egos or two personalities. I call these my soul and my brain or my business mentality.

So my Soul is, of course, the part of me which pursues all the things I love and make me feel good. My soul loves the outdoors, classical music, listening to nature, playing piano and reading historical novels.

These are all things that satisfy the deepest parts of me which few people in my life see, because these are all things I love to do for myself and often by myself. They give me a sense of fulfilment, a sense of lightness in chest, I feel like there are infinite possibilities, a universe at my fingertips to explore.

Beautiful right? And we all have this side to us, you may just not have found what it is your soul most desires yet… and that’s cool. I don’t really know either which is what’s super frustrating when you’re a 19 year old who’s trying to get everything together! But it’s all part of the process and we have to grow to love ourselves.

This other part of me is the business mindset, the brain. I’m also a super competitive person and love the whole concept of business, being under pressure and the man-made world. I’m a sucker for materialism, I love designer and I love fashion, because they make me feel good. I want to be a boss lady, and trust me I will be.

The trouble is these two parts of me are so different I struggle to find a balance. See right now I’m on more of the business path, but sometimes I can’t help but feel disconnected from my spirituality.

It’s super important to stay true to ourselves through everything, and it’s why I ensure to always make time for myself in the day. Whether it’s waking up 2 hours earlier than I need to for work, it’s so worth it! Because it means I can find time to fulfil my soul, and then fulfil the business part of me in my job.

If this is you too, and you can’t seem to find a balance. Keep trying, go with your gut, and what’s meant to be will be. If we trust our souls, and fulfil all parts of ourselves then everything will work out.

Have a beautiful evening my loves, sorry for the randomness of this post!

All my love,

HG

Playing the victim

So, I’d just got in from a really hectic day at work, I was mentally drained, but physically I could run a marathon. So I did… (not quite), but I ran and ran and the rain was pouring, and energy was just pouring out of me.

I got in and didn’t really feel much of a sense of relief, so I decided to have a bath, because if really pushing myself wasn’t going to shake this maybe I should try the opposite right? A bath would calm me and centre me again, and what better thing to do for ultimate relaxation than listen to an inspiring podcast?

I’d put on an episode from Christen Brown on – and if you haven’t heard of this lady I would seriously recomend her, she specialises in relationships but that’s not really what I go to listen to her about. She’s a very centred woman, who has experienced and been through a lot, but she maintains faith with the Universe and she’s all about keeping an eye out for signs that will help guide us on our paths.

In this particular episode, she was explaining how God helps us in mysterious ways, and sometimes if we don’t question the things that happen around us and take them as signs to progress and move forward then we end up playing the victim, our Ego takes over inside and we get all defensive, the ‘I don’t deserve this’ comes forward.

That was it. And at the time in the bath I didn’t realise. But as soon as I went downstairs for dinner I realised there was this knot of tension inside me, I wasn’t myself and I was aware of that and then it clicked. I have been playing the victim this whole time.

I was making it out as though my life was so hard, everything was working against me and it wasn’t fair, I felt mentally and spiritually stuck, I’ve been uninspired to write my blog and I’ve been struggling in my job. I felt like the Universe was against me and in thinking this I was sinking deeper into the mud. I was getting myself even more sticky and stuck, and I wasn’t going anywhere.

If I really thought about it for a second I would realise that the Universe had actually been providing me with everything I had asked for. I had the job, my social life has got 10X better than it used to be. (I mean fuck, when I was in a bad place with anxiety even seeing those people I felt closest to was hard because I had become so insecure.) I have met someone who I’m pretty convinced is the male version of me we get along so well!

In all, I should be really happy. So why wasn’t I? Why wasn’t I progressing?

Because I was playing victim.

It’s time for me to man up, if something isn’t working I really need to put in the time and energy to make something else work that would fulfill me more.

This isn’t me admiting defeat in the respect that I’m going to force myself to pursue something I strongly dislike, this is me telling myself and you too, that there is another way. The Universe is on your side, but the Universe can only do so much.

It will provide you with the ingrediants, but you have to make the cake.

Have a beautiful evening my loves, I hope you enjoyed this post, it’s time to get our mogo on and start inspiring ourselves, bring those frequencies higher and start loving ourselves again. Because we are awesome.

All my love,

HG

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Resilience

This is a word that I had and still do struggle to come to terms with every now and then.

I’m the sort of girl that wants to be resilient through everything, push through the hard days, hold a straight face at rude clients and keep my head high when I do something wrong.

But, truth is I do struggle every now and then. But I’m human, we all do.

Today at work I witnessed someone have a bit of a breakdown, and I felt that. I haven’t had one (at least not publicly at work🥴) but I empathised with that on a level!

It made me realise how good it is sometimes to cry it out, to get rid of all that stress and built up emotion in one big wave… then it crashes down onto the shore and you feel a little more at peace again.

Sometimes it’s like that, we want to be strong and resilient through it all but we must remember that it’s okay to have a moment every now and then.

Today I was reading a really amazing blog about female entrepreneurs, and you know what I was super inspired by these women.

It made me realise that my resilience and faith in the not yet seen must be super strong in times like this.

Times of uncertainty and change are some of the greatest times in our lives, we’re bound to have wobbles. But it’s the faith, it’s the reliance that keeps us going and that’s what makes an entrepreneur and that’s everything I inspire to become!

On my morning walk today I listened to a new podcast, I can’t remember the dudes name but regardless of that he was speaking about the difference between FAITH and CONFIDENCE.

He was explaining how we may not always have the confidence to do things, we may never have the confidence to do something. But that doesn’t matter, because if you have faith that everything is going to work out you will be RESILIENT and you will make it work.

That’s something I will try to live by now, because if you’re constantly waiting for that confidence to do something, there’s a good chance it’ll never come. There’s too many ‘what ifs’.

If you have faith, anything is possible, and faith makes you resilient.

All my love,

HG

Staying motivated in Winter

Good evening beautiful world. It’s cold, dark and a little damp outside, so I think it’s very easy for all of us to sit in and cuddle up on the sofa, forget about our goals, and put off the gym.

In the Northern hemisphere of the Earth were heading into the cooler winter months and for many of us this can be a time when everything seems to stand still, and our motivation crashes.

It’s like the Universe is working against us. We may wake up with the intention to go on a morning run to get a healthy head-start on the day, yet you draw back your curtains and the rains pouring down outside, your heart automatically sinks and you turn back to your bed for that extra 20 minutes of sleep.

I know it’s more challenging to stay mentally focused in these times, whether it’s fitness related or just your goals in general. Personally I’m finding it harder to concentrate at work when the darkenss starts creeping over the sky at just past 4 in the afternoon. It instantly de-motivates me, because mentally I begin to switch off when it’s dark, to me that’s sleepy time!

SO how do we fight this?

This time of the year doesn’t have to be seen as money absorbing and light disolving, it’s a time where you can build your mentality up so well that nothing can get in your way or distract you from your goals. It’s a time that will challenge you in a good way, and will help strengthen that mental bone that weakens when you start to feel a chill in the wind.

Something that I find may be helpful to some, is moving your alarm clock away from your bed so you simply have to get out of bed to wake up in the mornings!

Have your gym clothing layed out before you for when you wake so that you have no choice but to put them on and go ahead and do your thing.

On the days that are sunny (and I know there may be few) do things that you enjoy and appreciate the outdoors. I know this sounds silly, but enjoying a sunny winters day makes me appreciate this season even more, and makes the darker days seem a lot more bearable.

Look after yourself, and don’t let the sickness flue of winter grab hold of you! Perhaps try drinking hot lemon and water daily, or making healthy meals full of vitamins and nutrition to keep your body fueled and strong. Because lets face it, if your body shuts down, you’re going to mentally shut down too!

We’ve got this people, if you have any tips for staying motivated this season please share them below I’d love to read what you have to say! 🙂

All my love,

HG

A little appreciation post

Hello everyone, I hope you’re having a beautiful; morning, afternoon, evening or night no matter where you are in the world!

I wanted to write a post today about something that some of you may be able to relate to, and that is insomnia and sleeplessness. It’s literally something that is constantly the pain of my life and it’s a nightmare to deal with sometimes.

It doesn’t just affect me, if my boyfriend is to sleep over at my place there’s a 99% I’ll be keeping him up with me as I’m rolling around like a marooned whale trying to calm my restlessness and get comfortable. When you’re both working full time it’s not reallyyyy ideal to be going in on 3 hours sleep, but that was the case for us both on Monday morning this week. I couldn’t appreciate you more Luke for putting up with me, I know you’re reading this.

Why does insomnia happen? Ding ding, the bell for anxiety rings once again. I know this may not be the only cause, but for me I’m pretty sure this is at the core of it all. Whether it’s anxiety from overthinking the following day, or anxiety that I’ll get woken in the night (because I’m such a light sleeper) or whether it’s simply because I’m counting down the hours until I need to be awake again.

Although this is a pain, and it’s something I’m slowly trying to cope with, through meditation and reading before bed to calm my mind, I flip this negative into a positive because it makes me have a deeper appreciation for my body. Even on 3 hours of sleep yesterday I was able to be seriouslyyyy productive at my new job, and I didn’t even need a coffee to help me!

I was able to function, my legs held me up, my brain managed to stay focused, my eyes willingly stayed open and I still found the motivation and energy to do a mini workout at home that evening.

Now if that isn’t strength I don’t know what is!

For you mothers or fathers out there I’m sure you’re more adapted to this sleepless cycle, and I’m sure there are times when you couldn’t pray more for a decent nights sleep. But if anything should keep you positive and motivated, it’s that your body won’t give up on you, it will keep going, it will keep you moving and it will hold through.

Staying strong mentally and telling yourself you are capable of doing something changes your physical world too.

If anyone as any tips for insomnia or sleeplessness please do let me know, either shoot me an email or write a comment for me, I’d love to hear your suggestions!

All my love,

HG

Hopping on the roller coaster that only goes up

Good evening beautiful world and welcome back to my blog! It’s been a while and all I can ask is that you’re forgiving of me, since I did start a new job recently and finding a new routine has been a little tricky at times.

It’s all about maintaining a balance, am I right? I mean in my opinion that’s the most important thing, to have a work/ life balance. For me right now my work is not my life, one day I hope it is, I hope my work is something I enjoy so much I don’t even consider it a job. I won’t stop working until I get there, but for now, I must keep my head screwed on and held high.

How do I do that? I motivate myself every day, and I honestly feel like a morning routine plays such a huge part in this for me.

Don’t get me wrong like I do enjoy my job, everyone has the off day where perhaps things didn’t go too well, or you’re super sleepy as you’ve had a rough night so the day ahead may seem like a huge milestone to overcome, but you shouldn’t HATE your job. That’s super important too, if you’re job is the reason for your lowness, change it. Simple.

You may think- that’s a huge risk… but in reality it’s an even bigger risk to stay in that job and risk being miserable for more years than you would have to be.

I motivate myself daily to do the best I can and keep my goals in sight, because I know exactly where I want to be in 10 years time. Hell yeah I’ve wrote a mantra that describes how my life will be and it bloody well will because I’ve told myself it will. When I really want something, I don’t stop until I get it, that’s my mentality.

Whenever I’m feeling low or super down, my anxiety rises and I start on the negative thoughts about my life, my job, the ‘am I doing the right thing?’ questions arise. I could quite easily get swamped, but every time I can pull myself out of that by recentering. How do I do that?

Writing. I honestly think it’s the biggest thing for me staying focused. By writing down negative thoughts and turning them into positives, motivating yourself on paper you will start to see the lack of logic in how you’re thinking. So often when we’re getting low our thoughts are irrational and don’t make sense, yet we still manage to convince ourselves they’re reigning truths!

That’s your ego talking, that’s your lower self scaring you into submission because it thinks its ‘looking after you.’ By searching for rationality and seeing sense you are so much more likely to connect to your higher self. Writing for me is a blessing.

You know I’m ranting away on here like a mad woman because I feel like I have so much to tell you guys, because I freaking love to write.

Find something you truly love, something that’ll open your mind to wider possibilties and cancel out that lower voice in your head. For me, especially in a time in my life where I’m vulnerable to negativity- because starting a new job is never easy, I need to connect to my higher self to stay motivated.

If this is you too, I believe in you, you’ve got this!!! Keep your head high folks, and take your seat on the roller coaster that only goes up.

All my love,

HG

Making Judgements

So after a bit of a tiring week (since I started a new job), which I am super proud of myself for getting… I didn’t really know what to write about. I’ve been absorbing so much new information that my brain has just been overloaded, but in a good way, I love learning new things and being challenged so for me this is really cool. After going on a run this evening something suddenly clicked for me, I wasn’t even particularly thinking about it but it makes sense to write about.

See when I was job searching I struggled because I know I’m an intelligent individual with tons of potential, yet a lack of degree and experience in the necessary fields… Therefore I struggled to accept that I might have to start from the bottom and work my way up career wise. Butttttttttt, there’s nothing at all wrong with that.

My point is, is that I was judging myself for not starting my dream job immediately. So that’s what this post is about, I think the trouble is, some of us (and I know it can’t just be me) are so hard on ourselves and hard on other people because we are too judgmental about a situation that we are currently in that we end up producing this negative energy (which by the way doesn’t look good on anyone who wears it).

By observing everything with optimism, and positivity we automatically start being easier on ourselves too. What I’m trying to say is to stop judging other people and you will in turn stop judging yourself. If you laugh at an overweight person with your friends as you walk past them in the street chances are you look at yourself in the mirror and claim how ‘fat’ you are. Your insecurities reflect in how you perceive other people, and it just creates such negativity.

The moment I stopped judging myself for starting up in a career that I knew I didn’t want to do for life, just; something to get me going, a foot in the door of an amazing company with endless opportunities the Universe granted me with that something.

Am I making any sense? I hope so, I tend to type at the speed of my mind, and that runs pretty fast sometimes!

“Stop judging other people and you will stop judging yourself.”

Making your mentality so much more healthy, and making you more of an attractive person to other people! Try it for a day, challenge yourself to be more open minded, not closed off with judgements on why people are the way they are or look the way the look. That’s not for you to judge. Be positive and sympathetic, and great things will follow.

All my love,

HG