The City of Love

Good evening everyone, today I wanted to write something a little different. One of my goals for the end of this year was to travel somewhere, I achieved a very big goal this June by travelling to South Africa and back alone, but I wanted to get myself out of the country this winter and I did just that.

You can probably guess by the cliche title where this destination was… of course it was PARIS.

Paris sparked something new in me, every experience in life teaches us new things and this experience made me learn new things about my partner. So here’s me giving some relationship advise for a change rather than talking about myself.

Personally, I am a relationship girl, I easily get on with guys and that’s sometimes a pain since I would love to have more guy friends but they always seem to get the wrong end of the stick, if you know what I mean.

Anyway, recently I came across a famous video of Cher and she had said how ‘men are not a necessity, they are a luxury. Like dessert’ she then proceeded to go on with ‘my experience with men is great because I pick them because I like them, not because I need them...’

And this really resonated with me, you know, some people would consider me very fortunate with the relationship I have with my boyfriend. Because he’s not just my boyfriend, he’s my best friend, my favourite person to do spontaneous stupid shit with, be reckless and enjoy life with.

Paris made me realise how fortunate I am in love, and I believe it all comes from the way I view men. I mean, me and Luke were a complete accident! We met in a club randomly and got together, I intrigued him with my stubbornness to get with him so he asked me on a date and things just sparked.

I think for anyone who’s longing for love out there, patience is key, but also the willingness to give something a try, the willingness to take a risk but don’t put your heart on the line. I didn’t set things off with Luke as though he was going to be my boyfriend, I move to people based on their energy and he buzzes on a high frequency which I vibe with.

Always remember, men are a luxury not a necessity. Love yourself before trying to love someone else, otherwise how are you ever going to give anything to someone when you don’t have it within yourself.

Any love starts from within. You’ll attract what you are.

All my love,

HG

Playing the victim

So, I’d just got in from a really hectic day at work, I was mentally drained, but physically I could run a marathon. So I did… (not quite), but I ran and ran and the rain was pouring, and energy was just pouring out of me.

I got in and didn’t really feel much of a sense of relief, so I decided to have a bath, because if really pushing myself wasn’t going to shake this maybe I should try the opposite right? A bath would calm me and centre me again, and what better thing to do for ultimate relaxation than listen to an inspiring podcast?

I’d put on an episode from Christen Brown on – and if you haven’t heard of this lady I would seriously recomend her, she specialises in relationships but that’s not really what I go to listen to her about. She’s a very centred woman, who has experienced and been through a lot, but she maintains faith with the Universe and she’s all about keeping an eye out for signs that will help guide us on our paths.

In this particular episode, she was explaining how God helps us in mysterious ways, and sometimes if we don’t question the things that happen around us and take them as signs to progress and move forward then we end up playing the victim, our Ego takes over inside and we get all defensive, the ‘I don’t deserve this’ comes forward.

That was it. And at the time in the bath I didn’t realise. But as soon as I went downstairs for dinner I realised there was this knot of tension inside me, I wasn’t myself and I was aware of that and then it clicked. I have been playing the victim this whole time.

I was making it out as though my life was so hard, everything was working against me and it wasn’t fair, I felt mentally and spiritually stuck, I’ve been uninspired to write my blog and I’ve been struggling in my job. I felt like the Universe was against me and in thinking this I was sinking deeper into the mud. I was getting myself even more sticky and stuck, and I wasn’t going anywhere.

If I really thought about it for a second I would realise that the Universe had actually been providing me with everything I had asked for. I had the job, my social life has got 10X better than it used to be. (I mean fuck, when I was in a bad place with anxiety even seeing those people I felt closest to was hard because I had become so insecure.) I have met someone who I’m pretty convinced is the male version of me we get along so well!

In all, I should be really happy. So why wasn’t I? Why wasn’t I progressing?

Because I was playing victim.

It’s time for me to man up, if something isn’t working I really need to put in the time and energy to make something else work that would fulfill me more.

This isn’t me admiting defeat in the respect that I’m going to force myself to pursue something I strongly dislike, this is me telling myself and you too, that there is another way. The Universe is on your side, but the Universe can only do so much.

It will provide you with the ingrediants, but you have to make the cake.

Have a beautiful evening my loves, I hope you enjoyed this post, it’s time to get our mogo on and start inspiring ourselves, bring those frequencies higher and start loving ourselves again. Because we are awesome.

All my love,

HG

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Resilience

This is a word that I had and still do struggle to come to terms with every now and then.

I’m the sort of girl that wants to be resilient through everything, push through the hard days, hold a straight face at rude clients and keep my head high when I do something wrong.

But, truth is I do struggle every now and then. But I’m human, we all do.

Today at work I witnessed someone have a bit of a breakdown, and I felt that. I haven’t had one (at least not publicly at work🥴) but I empathised with that on a level!

It made me realise how good it is sometimes to cry it out, to get rid of all that stress and built up emotion in one big wave… then it crashes down onto the shore and you feel a little more at peace again.

Sometimes it’s like that, we want to be strong and resilient through it all but we must remember that it’s okay to have a moment every now and then.

Today I was reading a really amazing blog about female entrepreneurs, and you know what I was super inspired by these women.

It made me realise that my resilience and faith in the not yet seen must be super strong in times like this.

Times of uncertainty and change are some of the greatest times in our lives, we’re bound to have wobbles. But it’s the faith, it’s the reliance that keeps us going and that’s what makes an entrepreneur and that’s everything I inspire to become!

On my morning walk today I listened to a new podcast, I can’t remember the dudes name but regardless of that he was speaking about the difference between FAITH and CONFIDENCE.

He was explaining how we may not always have the confidence to do things, we may never have the confidence to do something. But that doesn’t matter, because if you have faith that everything is going to work out you will be RESILIENT and you will make it work.

That’s something I will try to live by now, because if you’re constantly waiting for that confidence to do something, there’s a good chance it’ll never come. There’s too many ‘what ifs’.

If you have faith, anything is possible, and faith makes you resilient.

All my love,

HG

Hopping on the roller coaster that only goes up

Good evening beautiful world and welcome back to my blog! It’s been a while and all I can ask is that you’re forgiving of me, since I did start a new job recently and finding a new routine has been a little tricky at times.

It’s all about maintaining a balance, am I right? I mean in my opinion that’s the most important thing, to have a work/ life balance. For me right now my work is not my life, one day I hope it is, I hope my work is something I enjoy so much I don’t even consider it a job. I won’t stop working until I get there, but for now, I must keep my head screwed on and held high.

How do I do that? I motivate myself every day, and I honestly feel like a morning routine plays such a huge part in this for me.

Don’t get me wrong like I do enjoy my job, everyone has the off day where perhaps things didn’t go too well, or you’re super sleepy as you’ve had a rough night so the day ahead may seem like a huge milestone to overcome, but you shouldn’t HATE your job. That’s super important too, if you’re job is the reason for your lowness, change it. Simple.

You may think- that’s a huge risk… but in reality it’s an even bigger risk to stay in that job and risk being miserable for more years than you would have to be.

I motivate myself daily to do the best I can and keep my goals in sight, because I know exactly where I want to be in 10 years time. Hell yeah I’ve wrote a mantra that describes how my life will be and it bloody well will because I’ve told myself it will. When I really want something, I don’t stop until I get it, that’s my mentality.

Whenever I’m feeling low or super down, my anxiety rises and I start on the negative thoughts about my life, my job, the ‘am I doing the right thing?’ questions arise. I could quite easily get swamped, but every time I can pull myself out of that by recentering. How do I do that?

Writing. I honestly think it’s the biggest thing for me staying focused. By writing down negative thoughts and turning them into positives, motivating yourself on paper you will start to see the lack of logic in how you’re thinking. So often when we’re getting low our thoughts are irrational and don’t make sense, yet we still manage to convince ourselves they’re reigning truths!

That’s your ego talking, that’s your lower self scaring you into submission because it thinks its ‘looking after you.’ By searching for rationality and seeing sense you are so much more likely to connect to your higher self. Writing for me is a blessing.

You know I’m ranting away on here like a mad woman because I feel like I have so much to tell you guys, because I freaking love to write.

Find something you truly love, something that’ll open your mind to wider possibilties and cancel out that lower voice in your head. For me, especially in a time in my life where I’m vulnerable to negativity- because starting a new job is never easy, I need to connect to my higher self to stay motivated.

If this is you too, I believe in you, you’ve got this!!! Keep your head high folks, and take your seat on the roller coaster that only goes up.

All my love,

HG

Making Judgements

So after a bit of a tiring week (since I started a new job), which I am super proud of myself for getting… I didn’t really know what to write about. I’ve been absorbing so much new information that my brain has just been overloaded, but in a good way, I love learning new things and being challenged so for me this is really cool. After going on a run this evening something suddenly clicked for me, I wasn’t even particularly thinking about it but it makes sense to write about.

See when I was job searching I struggled because I know I’m an intelligent individual with tons of potential, yet a lack of degree and experience in the necessary fields… Therefore I struggled to accept that I might have to start from the bottom and work my way up career wise. Butttttttttt, there’s nothing at all wrong with that.

My point is, is that I was judging myself for not starting my dream job immediately. So that’s what this post is about, I think the trouble is, some of us (and I know it can’t just be me) are so hard on ourselves and hard on other people because we are too judgmental about a situation that we are currently in that we end up producing this negative energy (which by the way doesn’t look good on anyone who wears it).

By observing everything with optimism, and positivity we automatically start being easier on ourselves too. What I’m trying to say is to stop judging other people and you will in turn stop judging yourself. If you laugh at an overweight person with your friends as you walk past them in the street chances are you look at yourself in the mirror and claim how ‘fat’ you are. Your insecurities reflect in how you perceive other people, and it just creates such negativity.

The moment I stopped judging myself for starting up in a career that I knew I didn’t want to do for life, just; something to get me going, a foot in the door of an amazing company with endless opportunities the Universe granted me with that something.

Am I making any sense? I hope so, I tend to type at the speed of my mind, and that runs pretty fast sometimes!

“Stop judging other people and you will stop judging yourself.”

Making your mentality so much more healthy, and making you more of an attractive person to other people! Try it for a day, challenge yourself to be more open minded, not closed off with judgements on why people are the way they are or look the way the look. That’s not for you to judge. Be positive and sympathetic, and great things will follow.

All my love,

HG

The Letter we should all write to ourselves…

Dear me,

I am beautiful, bold, brave, courageous and kind. I am doing amazing, working towards all my goals.

I am grateful for everything the Universe has gifted me so far, and I have even more gratitude for everything that is to come.

I am so strong. I have continued walking even in the hardest, darkest days; through rejection, anger and emotional states. I am still standing.

Everything I have been through has humbled me and made me into a stronger, better person.

There are no negatives in anything, just love and lessons to be learnt from.

I will constantly do the things I love, that keep me focused and inspire me to go after my biggest aspirations.

I am so proud of who I am. I love myself for staying true to who I am through it all.

Thank you Universe,

Hannah

… thought I’d share this. It’s a letter I wrote to myself one morning, sometimes I find writing down positive affirmations can really help if you’re not in the best mood. By doing this daily you’ll eventually start to believe them too, try it for yourself perhaps. Also I want to apologise for being MIA again. I have some important shifts happening in my life right now, things are beginning to re-align, and I’m excited.

All my love,

HG

Lets Get Deep

Hello beautiful world! Today I wanted to enlighten you all on a new book that I’m reading, since I’m all about soul searching and motivational writing. This one is called- The Seat of the Soul: An Inspiring vision of humanity’s spiritual destiny written by Gary Zukav.

To those of you who perhaps don’t believe in souls, or a higher being, whether you call it the Universe or God, this may seem a little daunting to you. But I beg don’t click off this post just yet! The concept of souls, and spirituality doesn’t have to be super serious, we don’t need to all run around naked in fields or make excessive humming sounds in a dark room to feel connected to our souls or have a sense of spirituality- although if that’s what it is for you, go get it!

I think so many people dismiss everything around this topic because it hasn’t been proved by science and blah blah blah. There’s no physical evidence and blah blah blah. Anddddd this is a book, and we all know how people in my generation (I’m a melenial baby by the way) dismiss books in general because they’re not fast paced enough for the culture we live in (which I totally disagree with- by the way).

One of the points Zukav introduces in the first chapter of this book is that many people only view the world as the physical place that it is, understandable right since there’s no proof of an invisable realm? The trouble is that by limiting ourselves to the belief of that of the physical realm the basis of life becomes fear, because it’s all about ‘Survival of the fittest’, we feel this need to control our environment and those within it. This power desired to control our environment, this physical dominance, is external therefore it can be lost, brought or stolen.

Money itself is the very symbol of external power. Those with more money have more ability to control their envirnment, because it gives a sense of security to us it becomes an external power. We all fear vulnerability, because of external power.

I don’t know if that made any sense to some of you, but that was me trying to summarise half of the first chapter. Authentic power is deeper, it’s loving without judgement, it’s aliging thoughts and emotions with our higher selves so we are filled with enthusiasm and a sense of purpose. No more fear, because we are no longer victims to external power. Effectively, if you’re living in a state of fear, the decisions you make are going to be unconscious ones meaning you’ll go on evolving unconsciously. By connecting to your soul, trusting in a higher being, you will be choosing more consciously and therefore evolving consciously finding greater meaning in everything you do and getting more fulfillment from life.

“Every circumstance and situation gives you the opportunity to choose this path, to allow your soul to shine through you.”

It may all sound pretty intense to some of you, but even if you don’t believe in spirituality there’s a whole lot to learn from this book (this is not an AD- by the way) just in terms of phycology! Pushing aside the Universe and God the concept of opening your eyes to something bigger than our eyes allow us to see is crazy. Give it a try, you might enjoy it.

All my love,

HG