The City of Love

Good evening everyone, today I wanted to write something a little different. One of my goals for the end of this year was to travel somewhere, I achieved a very big goal this June by travelling to South Africa and back alone, but I wanted to get myself out of the country this winter and I did just that.

You can probably guess by the cliche title where this destination was… of course it was PARIS.

Paris sparked something new in me, every experience in life teaches us new things and this experience made me learn new things about my partner. So here’s me giving some relationship advise for a change rather than talking about myself.

Personally, I am a relationship girl, I easily get on with guys and that’s sometimes a pain since I would love to have more guy friends but they always seem to get the wrong end of the stick, if you know what I mean.

Anyway, recently I came across a famous video of Cher and she had said how ‘men are not a necessity, they are a luxury. Like dessert’ she then proceeded to go on with ‘my experience with men is great because I pick them because I like them, not because I need them...’

And this really resonated with me, you know, some people would consider me very fortunate with the relationship I have with my boyfriend. Because he’s not just my boyfriend, he’s my best friend, my favourite person to do spontaneous stupid shit with, be reckless and enjoy life with.

Paris made me realise how fortunate I am in love, and I believe it all comes from the way I view men. I mean, me and Luke were a complete accident! We met in a club randomly and got together, I intrigued him with my stubbornness to get with him so he asked me on a date and things just sparked.

I think for anyone who’s longing for love out there, patience is key, but also the willingness to give something a try, the willingness to take a risk but don’t put your heart on the line. I didn’t set things off with Luke as though he was going to be my boyfriend, I move to people based on their energy and he buzzes on a high frequency which I vibe with.

Always remember, men are a luxury not a necessity. Love yourself before trying to love someone else, otherwise how are you ever going to give anything to someone when you don’t have it within yourself.

Any love starts from within. You’ll attract what you are.

All my love,

HG

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Resilience

This is a word that I had and still do struggle to come to terms with every now and then.

I’m the sort of girl that wants to be resilient through everything, push through the hard days, hold a straight face at rude clients and keep my head high when I do something wrong.

But, truth is I do struggle every now and then. But I’m human, we all do.

Today at work I witnessed someone have a bit of a breakdown, and I felt that. I haven’t had one (at least not publicly at work🥴) but I empathised with that on a level!

It made me realise how good it is sometimes to cry it out, to get rid of all that stress and built up emotion in one big wave… then it crashes down onto the shore and you feel a little more at peace again.

Sometimes it’s like that, we want to be strong and resilient through it all but we must remember that it’s okay to have a moment every now and then.

Today I was reading a really amazing blog about female entrepreneurs, and you know what I was super inspired by these women.

It made me realise that my resilience and faith in the not yet seen must be super strong in times like this.

Times of uncertainty and change are some of the greatest times in our lives, we’re bound to have wobbles. But it’s the faith, it’s the reliance that keeps us going and that’s what makes an entrepreneur and that’s everything I inspire to become!

On my morning walk today I listened to a new podcast, I can’t remember the dudes name but regardless of that he was speaking about the difference between FAITH and CONFIDENCE.

He was explaining how we may not always have the confidence to do things, we may never have the confidence to do something. But that doesn’t matter, because if you have faith that everything is going to work out you will be RESILIENT and you will make it work.

That’s something I will try to live by now, because if you’re constantly waiting for that confidence to do something, there’s a good chance it’ll never come. There’s too many ‘what ifs’.

If you have faith, anything is possible, and faith makes you resilient.

All my love,

HG

Hopping on the roller coaster that only goes up

Good evening beautiful world and welcome back to my blog! It’s been a while and all I can ask is that you’re forgiving of me, since I did start a new job recently and finding a new routine has been a little tricky at times.

It’s all about maintaining a balance, am I right? I mean in my opinion that’s the most important thing, to have a work/ life balance. For me right now my work is not my life, one day I hope it is, I hope my work is something I enjoy so much I don’t even consider it a job. I won’t stop working until I get there, but for now, I must keep my head screwed on and held high.

How do I do that? I motivate myself every day, and I honestly feel like a morning routine plays such a huge part in this for me.

Don’t get me wrong like I do enjoy my job, everyone has the off day where perhaps things didn’t go too well, or you’re super sleepy as you’ve had a rough night so the day ahead may seem like a huge milestone to overcome, but you shouldn’t HATE your job. That’s super important too, if you’re job is the reason for your lowness, change it. Simple.

You may think- that’s a huge risk… but in reality it’s an even bigger risk to stay in that job and risk being miserable for more years than you would have to be.

I motivate myself daily to do the best I can and keep my goals in sight, because I know exactly where I want to be in 10 years time. Hell yeah I’ve wrote a mantra that describes how my life will be and it bloody well will because I’ve told myself it will. When I really want something, I don’t stop until I get it, that’s my mentality.

Whenever I’m feeling low or super down, my anxiety rises and I start on the negative thoughts about my life, my job, the ‘am I doing the right thing?’ questions arise. I could quite easily get swamped, but every time I can pull myself out of that by recentering. How do I do that?

Writing. I honestly think it’s the biggest thing for me staying focused. By writing down negative thoughts and turning them into positives, motivating yourself on paper you will start to see the lack of logic in how you’re thinking. So often when we’re getting low our thoughts are irrational and don’t make sense, yet we still manage to convince ourselves they’re reigning truths!

That’s your ego talking, that’s your lower self scaring you into submission because it thinks its ‘looking after you.’ By searching for rationality and seeing sense you are so much more likely to connect to your higher self. Writing for me is a blessing.

You know I’m ranting away on here like a mad woman because I feel like I have so much to tell you guys, because I freaking love to write.

Find something you truly love, something that’ll open your mind to wider possibilties and cancel out that lower voice in your head. For me, especially in a time in my life where I’m vulnerable to negativity- because starting a new job is never easy, I need to connect to my higher self to stay motivated.

If this is you too, I believe in you, you’ve got this!!! Keep your head high folks, and take your seat on the roller coaster that only goes up.

All my love,

HG

Lets Get Deep

Hello beautiful world! Today I wanted to enlighten you all on a new book that I’m reading, since I’m all about soul searching and motivational writing. This one is called- The Seat of the Soul: An Inspiring vision of humanity’s spiritual destiny written by Gary Zukav.

To those of you who perhaps don’t believe in souls, or a higher being, whether you call it the Universe or God, this may seem a little daunting to you. But I beg don’t click off this post just yet! The concept of souls, and spirituality doesn’t have to be super serious, we don’t need to all run around naked in fields or make excessive humming sounds in a dark room to feel connected to our souls or have a sense of spirituality- although if that’s what it is for you, go get it!

I think so many people dismiss everything around this topic because it hasn’t been proved by science and blah blah blah. There’s no physical evidence and blah blah blah. Anddddd this is a book, and we all know how people in my generation (I’m a melenial baby by the way) dismiss books in general because they’re not fast paced enough for the culture we live in (which I totally disagree with- by the way).

One of the points Zukav introduces in the first chapter of this book is that many people only view the world as the physical place that it is, understandable right since there’s no proof of an invisable realm? The trouble is that by limiting ourselves to the belief of that of the physical realm the basis of life becomes fear, because it’s all about ‘Survival of the fittest’, we feel this need to control our environment and those within it. This power desired to control our environment, this physical dominance, is external therefore it can be lost, brought or stolen.

Money itself is the very symbol of external power. Those with more money have more ability to control their envirnment, because it gives a sense of security to us it becomes an external power. We all fear vulnerability, because of external power.

I don’t know if that made any sense to some of you, but that was me trying to summarise half of the first chapter. Authentic power is deeper, it’s loving without judgement, it’s aliging thoughts and emotions with our higher selves so we are filled with enthusiasm and a sense of purpose. No more fear, because we are no longer victims to external power. Effectively, if you’re living in a state of fear, the decisions you make are going to be unconscious ones meaning you’ll go on evolving unconsciously. By connecting to your soul, trusting in a higher being, you will be choosing more consciously and therefore evolving consciously finding greater meaning in everything you do and getting more fulfillment from life.

“Every circumstance and situation gives you the opportunity to choose this path, to allow your soul to shine through you.”

It may all sound pretty intense to some of you, but even if you don’t believe in spirituality there’s a whole lot to learn from this book (this is not an AD- by the way) just in terms of phycology! Pushing aside the Universe and God the concept of opening your eyes to something bigger than our eyes allow us to see is crazy. Give it a try, you might enjoy it.

All my love,

HG

A lesson

Good morning beautiful world, how is everyone? I have to say I’m in higher spirits than I have been this week, and that’s something. Recently I’ve had the time to think a lot about everything, and I remembered something Oprah Winfrey had said in her book- What I know for sure.

… and that is that in everything there is a lesson. Whether something good or bad is currently happening in your life there is always something positive to learn from it. It’s easy for me to say- “I wish I hadn’t taken that job a month ago (which I worked in for only 2 days due to its toxic nature)”, and although I have a right to feel that way I’m looking at it with my negative spectacles on… and we all know that’s not good.

If we switch to the positive spectacles, we can say- “this is good because…” and it changes everything. Within everything in life there is a positive, whether your cats just died or you got fired from your job there is always something to take from that which is a lesson, and with that you can work from it and make something amazing happen.

“Everything- and I really mean EVERYTHING in life happens for a reason.”

You can make that reason whatever you want, because you have the power to change your life for the better, every day when you wake up you choose how you’re going to live your day. Choose love and happiness over negativity. Choose joy over frustration and anger.

It’s not always easy to remember, and trust me I forget too! I forget on some days, and it’s easy to when things get hard. Unemployment is literally my worst fear and I’m living in it currently! But you have to see things with the positive glasses on. We can all do this no matter what you’re living with. And the biggest lesson of all to learn?

Patience.

Patience is a virtue, it’s not easy especially when you’re living in a world which is running at 100000 miles per hour all the time. But good things come to those who wait, and you can’t rush a master piece. Maintain that faith that better things are coming, live each day with positivity, radiate love and joy and you’ll see.

When it happens it happens, but you’ll look back and realise that your patience paid off.

All my love,

HG

Keeping it real

Hello beautiful world. So it’s the evening here in England currently, but I wanted to write just because I know I love writing, is that okay with you guys? I hope so…

Today I had a bad day, for me a very bad day. I felt as bad as I did back at the beginning of this year, when my anxiety and low mood was at an all time high. I just wanted to write to prove to you guys that everyone has bad days, today was just one of those, a bad day.

We don’t have to allow our emotions to spill into the next day. Tomorrow hasn’t happened yet, it’s new, fresh, ready for the taking. Seize it, get as much as you can from it, because it’s time you can’t get back!

That being said, today I felt emotionally exhausted. My eyes hurt from crying and I was constantly in need of reassuring hugs from my mum, and that’s okay. So I haven’t forced myself to do too much, when I went to the gym I didn’t hate myself for not having the energy to do an intense ab workout because I didn’t feel in the right mindset. And that’s okay.

We all have bad days, but that’s all they are. Tomorrow I vow to do better, achieve more and begin my new adventure, open new doors and create more opportunities for myself because there is always a way.

I think I should create a new series don’t you think? About never giving up? Because you wait, you’ll be reading my blog a year from now and I’ll be in a completely different phase of my life, one that’s brighter and filled with more hope.

It’s time for me to fall in love with myself again, regain my focus and figure out a direction. Because we, ourselves, should always be our NUMBER ONE PRIORITY. Never forget that.

All my love,

HG

Manifestation

Hello beautiful world and welcome back to my blog. How are you today? Take a moment to sit down and tap into how you’re really feeling, find appreciation and gratitude for anything and everything and just breathe. That’s what I’ve been trying to get better at recently, because I feel like I haven’t been tapping into how I’m truly feeling enough, and that’s because I’m scared.

When we feel negative emotions we want to ignore them, but it’s okay to feel sad or a little lost sometimes, if anything it’s totally normal and you should embrace it! This is something I’m still working on. Yes, I apologise because most of my posts must seem pretty samey recently, but I’m still powering through this awkward phase of my life.

I know deep down that my soul is trying to find a deeper meaning for me, and it’s all about maintaining faith that something amazing is about to come round the corner and sweep me off my feet, then I’ll look back and think- wow I’ve come so far, and I’m so glad that happened in order for me to get here.

Recently if I go running in the mornings (and by a run I mean 40% running 60% walking) I go on a route which takes me past my local church. I’m fortunate enough to live in a cute country village, where it’s calm and peaceful so running anywhere is pretty chilled. Yet I’d run past this church so many times and completely ignored it, because it was just part of the scenery.

Last week, I stepped inside. I don’t know who opens up this church so early but I usually go in about 8:30am or so, and the place is pretty dark with a little morning light and its dead silent… For some this may seem a little creepy but for me it was oddly calming.

I sat myself down in a pue and clasped my hands together. I was baptised as a Christian so I have been to church before it’s just something I was forced to do as a kid (kind of), this was me willingly getting down on my knees and praying… and it was awesome.

At this point in my job searching process I had had no responses, and I was feeling a little lost. So I asked for some guidance, I asked, I begged, for a sign for something to change, for a hand to hold, for strength in order to keep my faith. I know for some of you this may seem a little stupid, but I honestly just poured my heart out, emptied myself of any worries and then got up and left feeling 10 stone lighter than I did going in.

That same day I had a phone call about two different job interviews. That’s when I realised that the Law of Attraction works. If you put it out into the world, you ask for it, get down on your knees for it, it’ll manifest.

It’s about holding strong and keeping your head high, never fall down or settle for less than you deserve. I know that something exciting is on it’s way to me, yes I don’t know what exactly it is, but I know it’s there.

Sometimes uncertainty is okay, and it’s something I’ve been working on. Focus on yourself, don’t be comparitive because that won’t get you anywhere. If you truly want something and believe it’s yours, you’ve got it, just keep moving towards it in any way you can.

In the darkness there is always light- or something like that from the bible.

All my love,

HG