Pat yourself on the back

Hello beautiful readers, and a happy monday to you all! Who else remembers being told to do this at their primary school? After any little activity or small achievement we would be told to congratulate ourselves, appreciate that we had done well and then move forward.

Why am I talking about this? Because I feel like it’s become habit for so many of us to ignore the small achievements we’ve made, and only focus on the large and most ‘life-changing.’ The trouble is with this is that we’re left with a sense of never being satisfied, always wanting more, bigger, better.

Sometimes it can even stop us pursuing those things which we really want, our biggest dreams and goals because we believe they are so unattainable, out of reach. When really, if we’d payed attention and noted all the baby steps we were already making towards them then we would realise that we’re on our way there.

To be honest this is how I’ve been feeling recently, a little defeated you know. One of the ways I find helps me when I’m feeling a little lost, or feeling as though everything I desire is so far from my grasp is I remember all the little things I have achieved. Things such as starting this very blog! This was a major thing for me this year, yet I so often over-look it because it’s become part of routine now. I can tell you that setting up a website is not easy people, it was a mission and a half to do this, yet still I forget to pat myself on the back for it.

Another achievement is over-coming the worst of my anxiety. You know I’ve vowed to myself I will never allow myself to sink that low again, all the counselling, all the meditation, all the mind-training was worth it. Yet I still forget to pat myself on the back for it. If I could take myself back to how I was feeling in January of this year I know I was begging to feel this normal on a daily basis like I am now, rather than so up tight and miserable.

Whenever things are getting a little hard, whether you’re going through a break-up, mourning a loved one or are stressed for exams, remember to pat yourself on the back for the little things. If you’re struggling with a break-up, pat yourself on the back for the first day you’re strong enough not to cry. If you’re mourning someone you love, pat yourself on the back for the day you actually get out of bed. If you’re stressed for exams, pat yourself on the back for the that time you nailed that one practice paper.

Because the little things matter, heck, they matter the most, because if we didn’t appreciate them we wouldn’t be able to reach the bigger goals. Don’t overlook them or become blind to them, embrace them, and keep progressing.

All my love,

HG

Fear of the unsuccessful

You know I was asked recently what I was most scared of. Initially I couldn’t think of anything since I’m not the kind of girl who winces at spiders or faints at the sight of blood. For me I’ve always been fearful of being unsuccessful, and I think this is where the whole concept of pressuring myself comes into action.

You see, I take things too seriously sometimes because I’m always striving for more. I’m rarely satisfied because I love to push myself to the maximum, and if I’m working/studying something unfulfilling it really affects me, and I find myself getting frustrated because I’m not at my full potential.

Along with working on living with uncertainty I’m working on living in the present. It’s super important for me and my mental well-being to appreciate the journey, because success doesn’t often happen over-night. I suppose it depends what you determine as ‘success’ too. If success was waking up in the morning with a positive outlook every day I would be successful a lot of the time.

I think part of the problem with my generation is that there’s always a want/need for more. This is due to constant comparison. What we forget is that we should be working towards bettering our lives for ourselves! Not for anyone else, not to be able to compare further and judge each other’s achievements. We are all running our own race in our own time. Love the journey and embrace it, believe that you will make it and you will.

All my love,

HG

Finding a greater sense of gratitude

Hello beautiful world from the other side of the world for a change, I’m writing from South Africa this morning but still wanted to post a second blog for the week. It’s winter in the Southern Hemisphere and sometimes the temperatures here make me want to go back to England, since it’s summer there right now, and I never thought I’d be saying that! To top it off the showers are either freezing cold or boiling hot, and when you’re getting up at 6 in the morning and it’s freezing I can tell you a cold shower is not appealing…

That being said it has been such a memorable experience so far, even though it’s only been three days I have seen so much wildlife, and the culture here is unbelievably different. Yesterday for example we went to the local town near the reserve I’m staying at in order to do some volunteering for the local community. We were painting some of the playground for the children since it looked a bit worse for wear and needed a lick of paint. Arriving in this place that was considered a town was astounding, we all see the advertisements on TV of places with litter everywhere, tin cans for houses and stray dogs wandering around but until you see them it doesn’t really hit you. It makes everything sort of shift into perspective, and makes you see greater gratitude in everything, it made me appreciate what I have even more.

I have such admiration for the children in this town, who as soon as we got off the trucks were immediately giving hugs, they constantly had smiles on their faces when the only entertainment they had was each other and some plastic. It was amazing to see the entertainment they got from playing with used water bottles, and made you think how kids back home always want the latest things the newest technology, how materialistic our society has become. The sad thing is these kids didn’t know any different, they’re confined to this town in the middle of nowhere to be honest it was upsetting. Painting their playground would make their day, and it was such an amazing feeling to know you’re making someone else’s day, week, even month that bit better and more exciting. 

This is the pleasure of giving, with giving comes gratitude, visiting that local town really moved me, and made me realise how insignificant our problems are back home when some of these people may not even know how they’re going to afford their dinner. Just as we were leaving the town this one guy was literally begging for 5 rand to buy bread because he was so hungry, that will stay with me forever. 

I’ll make sure to tell you about future experiences out here, more environmental stuff! This week just happened to be more community based, but next week I’ll be doing more game drives and animal tracking.

Keep spreading love and helping others, and you’ll naturally see gratitude in everything around you.

All my love, 

HG

YOU’RE WORTHY

So we all know how it is to feel worthless and useless right? If you haven’t you’re a very fortunate person and I envy you considerably. But often what we don’t realise is that the reason we feel worthless is due to the fact that we allow other people too much control over our emotions, we rely on their opinion of us to affirm our own opinion of ourselves… and that’s not good. 

This post today is about taking that control back, and never allowing anyone else’s opinion of you to topple your own, never allow anyone that pink plane windowpower over you. This is especially evident in relationships. How many young girls rely on some dirty trash of a guy’s opinion in order to feel fulfilled and good enough? Why should we allow someone the power to control how we feel? The answer is we should NOT. 

Recently for me after going through a breakup I allowed myself to become lower in self-worth because of this one dude I met like 3 times. This guy intimidated me, he was older, very ambitious and successful. Consequently I thought he was a rather arrogant person, which can obviously become unattractive when not in moderation. So this intimidation and feeling that he was better than me (since he’d been so successful) led to me believing that I had no worth and that everything I had made for myself through my blog and YouTube was useless. All this from meeting up with a guy 3 bloody times!!!

It’s like I forgot all about ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’ and that I control my own worth, no one else should be given that control. The problem was I allowed this dude the power to change my worth, making me forget how freaking amazing I am, making me doubtful and lowering my overall frequency. 

pink cloudsNow, I know I am not the only girl that has had this experience with boys that they’re seeing. If you’re feeling low and depressed due to a guy who isn’t showing or giving you the attention you so rightfully deserve, get rid of him, throw him in the trash. You and you alone set the bar for what you deserve. If you believe you deserve someone who is lazy with no ambition you’ll attract and accept people like that. You’re better than that, you deserve to set that bar as high as you can, and don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are a bad b*tch, an independent woman, who does not need a mans attention and appreciation to feel whole. 

I just feel like so many of us fall into this trap, subconsciously. I mean I would say I’m a pretty strong young lady and even I get sucked into this vicious circle. I think at the end of the day we all like the attention, but we deserve the best sort of attention, not the arse who isn’t giving you the love you deserve. 

Remember this ladies and gents, I think we all need to hear it sometimes. 

All my love, 

HG

(The Broken Pearl) 

The one thing stopping you from doing what you love

Hello beautiful readers, I am currently feeling super motivated and fancied writing while I was in the zone. To be honest, I just want to help as many people as I can with my advice. As I’ve mentioned multiple times I love giving to others, and as Jen Sincero taught me in her book You are a Badass– in giving to others you will undoubtedly recieve an abundance of goods, because that’s the way the Universe works, what you put out you recieve… and I freaking love that!

So I remember when I started University, or even when studying my A Levels that I had a really strong feeling and passion about going to one of Africa’s many countries and getting involved with the wildlife out there. I’ve always been one of those people who sits on the edge of their seat while watching Planet Earth as David Attenborough narrates the life of a penguin, whale or zerba. I love the beauty and complexity of the Earth and nature itself, it’s always been something I’ve held such admiration for. I think growing up in the countryside of Kent in England has contributed to this. Forestry and endless rolling hills are scenes that have become normalised for me but some people dream of in their built up towns or sky-scraper cities.

As I said however this has become normalised to me, I know there’s so much more exotic wildlife out there, and I want to witness it. I’ve never been one to watch a lot of TV, in my opinion I’d rather be experiencing or doing what I’m watching rather than sitting on my bum and commenting on what other people are achieving. I’m not saying I don’t relax and chill out sometimes, but I am such a do’er so I wasn’t just planning on watching David Attenborough narrate about zebras I was going to do it myself.

When I ran into a large sum of money at the end of 2018, I didn’t pay back the student loan I owed immediatly, I didn’t use it to learn to drive which perhaps would have been the ‘sensible’ thing to do. Instead I used it to do something I was super passionate about and knew I would cherish in my heart forever… I BOOKED A TRIP TO SOUTH AFRICA TO WILDLIFE VOLUNTEER.

If you’re new here this is news for you, for those of you who have been here before, your ears are probably bleeding from hearing me talk about this again and I apologise. But I cannot contain my excitement enough!

What I’m trying to say is that sometimes it’s important to go for what feels good rather than what other people are trying to convince you to do, or what might be the ‘sensible’ thing to do. Be wild and crazy, pursue what many would think you were stupid for doing because at the end of the day as long as you’re happy and your soul is content what is there to worry about?

Most people back out of things they truly desire out of fear. Don’t be that person. Make your dreams a reality. Travel through your TV screen, start living the life you’ve always wanted. For me South Africa is the start of something beautiful, it’s the start of a new addiction, an adventure of a lifetime.

I hope you go after what’s calling you too.

All my love,

HG

(The Broken Pearl)

Make your aura glow!

Good morning beautiful world, how are we all today? You know this morning I realised how important it is to look after our bodies and listen to them when they’re trying to tell us something. So I went to the gym bright and early, was working out pretty hard and I was kinda in a rush because I’m on a timed schedule due to train times, and after doing a set of exercises I had an overwhelming feeling of nausea. It’s rare I ever really get this feeling, I mean I’m a little gym fanatic, my body is used to being pushed to its limits, but today it was telling me- nope I’ve had enough it’s time to stop now. Sometimes this is just the laziness within us telling us this, but I knew that my body really wasn’t up to it, I started to feel faint and dizzy and to stop that getting worse I left. Trust your body, don’t push yourself too hard, do what your body is telling you people.

Anyway, that wasn’t what my blog topic is about today, but if that was enough for you and you’ve learnt something that can benefit you that’s great and my jobs done! wisteria.jpeg

Today I wanted to talk to you all about aura’s. So after reading some Oprah Winfrey this morning (which I had stopped doing recently because I had lots of other things to get me writing in my journal) she talked about a mans near death experience, and how just as he was escaping the scene he described these sort of bright lights or auras leaving the bodies of those who had deceased. It was a sad story, a plane exploding, leading to many deaths and few escaping with their lives.

The whole concept of aura’s really stuck with him, and it has now really intrigued me. He explained how some aura’s shone brighter than others. To me this seemed as though the brightness or the aura is our soul leaving our body, and the brighter it shone the more goodness you have done and the more you have followed your soul in your life.

In pursuing love, and by listening to your soul (the little voice in your head which so many of us disregard), following the right feelings we are being guided to the light and our soul will shine brighter as a consequence. Perhaps our souls shine bright from doing good too? At least that’s what I would like to believe. Being empathetic and promoting positivity in everyday life will only help your soul shine brighter because you’re emitting aura postgood energy out to the Universe and to others. This is part of the reason I have fallen in love with volunteering, the whole concept of giving for nothing in return. It makes me feel good, and when I’m working I don’t complain, I relish in the joy of helping others and doing good.

Close your eyes, and envision this light within you, your soul fluttering beside your heart. How brightly would you say you have allowed your aura to shine? If you feel as though every day is becoming a chore and time seems to disappear with little time for you to do what you truly love, change that. If you feel as though your flame, the spark has gone out within you, RE-IGNITE! Find that energy, that love within you, seek gratitude and go after the right feelings. It’s never too late. I realised this when I began pursuing a career in Law at University, my soul wasn’t being fed what it really wanted, I wasn’t buzzing with energy and life and I certainly wasn’t emitting positive energy I was enveloped in darkness, my flame had certainly gone out. But as I just said, there’s always a way out, although it was challenging I changed my path and decided to change course which meant taking a year out. There’s always a way.

If you take anything from this blog post remember this:

The Universe is on your side, it want’s you to achieve your greatest desires and pursue what you love. Your soul deserves to shine bright within you. If you could see your soul how would it look? Would you be happy with it? 

Carpe diem people, keep your eyes bright and your souls even brighter.

All my love, 

HG

(The Broken Pearl)

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Listen to your soul

Good morning beautiful world, I hope no matter where you are in the world or what time zone you’re in that you’re having a blessed day and you have found gratitude and love in everything you’ve been through.

So, today I’m talking about soul listening, and tuning into that little voice that nags inside us every now and then in order to get our attention and make us make the right decision. Some people refer to this as their gut, or their instincts, but deep down I believe this is our soul, our inner wisdom trying to guide us to make ourselves happier beings and go after what we truly desire.

Previously I have mentioned how in following what feels right you will naturally find clouds peaxe.jpgsuccess, that’s because in following the rights, not ignoring them or being blind to them and following the wrongs we are doing what our soul wants us to be doing and following that which makes us truly happy within.

What Oprah reminded my today in my daily self-help book was that when we put time and effort into things which we dislike and find no joy in, we find ourselves getting enwrapped in emotions such as anger or depression. I thought this was an interesting way to view things to be honest, and really emphasises the important of acknowledging the guidance from that little voice in our heads.

If you ever find yourself feeling, depressed or angry, maybe that’s an opporunity for you to assess the situation and ask yourself “Am I doing things that truly make me happy? What is my soul trying to tell me right now through conveying these negative emotions to me?”

The voice can often be quieted down and shut off with the more hectic external lives we lead, for me, the past couple of days have been pretty hectic, if you follow my insta you would know this @hannahzgracee (shameless self promo). In being hectic I found that I was doing less of the things that keep me grounded, keep me focused, keep me positive and following my aspirations. These things for me being my meditation, my journalling, self-help reading and planning the day.

These little things create an inner calm for me, and when you’re leading an extra busy journallingand hectic external life it’s super important to ensure you have that internal calm. Because if you’re being busy, you’re constantly in a rush, your mind will be running at 100mph, the same speed which you’ll be sprinting around trying to get everything done! And when your mind is doing this that little voice, the voice of your soul gets cut off, ignored, overlooked, and this is why so many of us fall into the trap of unhappiness. We get locked down into a job that we hate, or hang out with people who give off lower frequencies than you do.

The importance of grounding yourself, and listening to your soul is crucial to your happiness. Once you find your ways of calming your inner self, you can make changes to your outer self and create the life you’ve always dreamed of by going after those right feelings until you find success!

All my love,

HG

(The broken pearl)