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Resilience

This is a word that I had and still do struggle to come to terms with every now and then.

I’m the sort of girl that wants to be resilient through everything, push through the hard days, hold a straight face at rude clients and keep my head high when I do something wrong.

But, truth is I do struggle every now and then. But I’m human, we all do.

Today at work I witnessed someone have a bit of a breakdown, and I felt that. I haven’t had one (at least not publicly at work🥴) but I empathised with that on a level!

It made me realise how good it is sometimes to cry it out, to get rid of all that stress and built up emotion in one big wave… then it crashes down onto the shore and you feel a little more at peace again.

Sometimes it’s like that, we want to be strong and resilient through it all but we must remember that it’s okay to have a moment every now and then.

Today I was reading a really amazing blog about female entrepreneurs, and you know what I was super inspired by these women.

It made me realise that my resilience and faith in the not yet seen must be super strong in times like this.

Times of uncertainty and change are some of the greatest times in our lives, we’re bound to have wobbles. But it’s the faith, it’s the reliance that keeps us going and that’s what makes an entrepreneur and that’s everything I inspire to become!

On my morning walk today I listened to a new podcast, I can’t remember the dudes name but regardless of that he was speaking about the difference between FAITH and CONFIDENCE.

He was explaining how we may not always have the confidence to do things, we may never have the confidence to do something. But that doesn’t matter, because if you have faith that everything is going to work out you will be RESILIENT and you will make it work.

That’s something I will try to live by now, because if you’re constantly waiting for that confidence to do something, there’s a good chance it’ll never come. There’s too many ‘what ifs’.

If you have faith, anything is possible, and faith makes you resilient.

All my love,

HG

A little appreciation post

Hello everyone, I hope you’re having a beautiful; morning, afternoon, evening or night no matter where you are in the world!

I wanted to write a post today about something that some of you may be able to relate to, and that is insomnia and sleeplessness. It’s literally something that is constantly the pain of my life and it’s a nightmare to deal with sometimes.

It doesn’t just affect me, if my boyfriend is to sleep over at my place there’s a 99% I’ll be keeping him up with me as I’m rolling around like a marooned whale trying to calm my restlessness and get comfortable. When you’re both working full time it’s not reallyyyy ideal to be going in on 3 hours sleep, but that was the case for us both on Monday morning this week. I couldn’t appreciate you more Luke for putting up with me, I know you’re reading this.

Why does insomnia happen? Ding ding, the bell for anxiety rings once again. I know this may not be the only cause, but for me I’m pretty sure this is at the core of it all. Whether it’s anxiety from overthinking the following day, or anxiety that I’ll get woken in the night (because I’m such a light sleeper) or whether it’s simply because I’m counting down the hours until I need to be awake again.

Although this is a pain, and it’s something I’m slowly trying to cope with, through meditation and reading before bed to calm my mind, I flip this negative into a positive because it makes me have a deeper appreciation for my body. Even on 3 hours of sleep yesterday I was able to be seriouslyyyy productive at my new job, and I didn’t even need a coffee to help me!

I was able to function, my legs held me up, my brain managed to stay focused, my eyes willingly stayed open and I still found the motivation and energy to do a mini workout at home that evening.

Now if that isn’t strength I don’t know what is!

For you mothers or fathers out there I’m sure you’re more adapted to this sleepless cycle, and I’m sure there are times when you couldn’t pray more for a decent nights sleep. But if anything should keep you positive and motivated, it’s that your body won’t give up on you, it will keep going, it will keep you moving and it will hold through.

Staying strong mentally and telling yourself you are capable of doing something changes your physical world too.

If anyone as any tips for insomnia or sleeplessness please do let me know, either shoot me an email or write a comment for me, I’d love to hear your suggestions!

All my love,

HG

Making Judgements

So after a bit of a tiring week (since I started a new job), which I am super proud of myself for getting… I didn’t really know what to write about. I’ve been absorbing so much new information that my brain has just been overloaded, but in a good way, I love learning new things and being challenged so for me this is really cool. After going on a run this evening something suddenly clicked for me, I wasn’t even particularly thinking about it but it makes sense to write about.

See when I was job searching I struggled because I know I’m an intelligent individual with tons of potential, yet a lack of degree and experience in the necessary fields… Therefore I struggled to accept that I might have to start from the bottom and work my way up career wise. Butttttttttt, there’s nothing at all wrong with that.

My point is, is that I was judging myself for not starting my dream job immediately. So that’s what this post is about, I think the trouble is, some of us (and I know it can’t just be me) are so hard on ourselves and hard on other people because we are too judgmental about a situation that we are currently in that we end up producing this negative energy (which by the way doesn’t look good on anyone who wears it).

By observing everything with optimism, and positivity we automatically start being easier on ourselves too. What I’m trying to say is to stop judging other people and you will in turn stop judging yourself. If you laugh at an overweight person with your friends as you walk past them in the street chances are you look at yourself in the mirror and claim how ‘fat’ you are. Your insecurities reflect in how you perceive other people, and it just creates such negativity.

The moment I stopped judging myself for starting up in a career that I knew I didn’t want to do for life, just; something to get me going, a foot in the door of an amazing company with endless opportunities the Universe granted me with that something.

Am I making any sense? I hope so, I tend to type at the speed of my mind, and that runs pretty fast sometimes!

“Stop judging other people and you will stop judging yourself.”

Making your mentality so much more healthy, and making you more of an attractive person to other people! Try it for a day, challenge yourself to be more open minded, not closed off with judgements on why people are the way they are or look the way the look. That’s not for you to judge. Be positive and sympathetic, and great things will follow.

All my love,

HG

Make mistakes

Good morning beautiful world, I’m currently at Centre Parcs enjoying a Starbucks whilst everyone else goes swimming. If you’re a girl who fake tans you’ll know that chlorine literally makes you look like a lizard so it’s truly not worth swimming especially since I’ve just re-done my whole body. Anyway…

We all know I went to South Africa recently, nothing new to say about that which I haven’t already said, except that it really did act as a second awakening for me. Sometimes we have to experience things in order to discover if it’s your cup of tea, but not everyone likes tea, some people like coffee. Although I adored South Africa and really appreciated the whole experience it made me realise that I wasn’t overly fussed about studying it in the long-term. 

Arriving back home I had a bit of a breakdown because it felt like I had just taken another 10 steps backwards with how far I had come since February when I stopped my counselling as I felt I had a sense of direction again. Now I was back to square one, what do I want to do with myself? 

And who do I confide in when my mind is troubled? My mum. So we had a long chat about how I felt, because in myself I knew I was unhappy and I had the urge, that gut feeling, that studying animal conservation wasn’t right for me at this moment in time. 

My mum told me something I realised I needed to hear and that was that it’s okay to live with uncertainty and that not everything has to be planned and known for definite. I think because I’m such an organised person 90% of the time this has always been something I’ve struggled with, I’m a bit of a perfectionist I would say and this is because I like winning. I’m a very competitive person you see, which has its pro’s and cons of course. 

Living with uncertainty is kind of a crazy concept for me, but it’s something I’m trying to get better at. I think having anxiety doesn’t help with this, but I don’t think that’s the only reason, as I said I think it’s just my personality to be organised and planned. 

But we don’t always need a freaking plan! Now is the time to make mistakes, to change our minds over and over again until one day we know what we want to do when we’re asked! Who knows what I’m destined to do, I know I’ll be successful at whatever I do but I don’t know what it is yet and that’s okay! Too much pressure is put on the younger generation to know what we want so that we get forced into job roles that don’t suit us or we outgrow. 

It’s never too late to change your mind or change career path. Always trust your gut, follow your soul and find your happiness. One day you’ll know what you want to do, because you’ve made all the mistakes you can, and that’s part of life.

All my love,

HG

(The Broken Pearl)

Over-coming anxiety part 3

I just wanted to start this post by saying that although you may perceive this series as a sign that I’m 100% clear of anxiety this is not the case, and that’s normal. Your anxiety makes you who you are and sometimes it may pop up to say hello. It’s just learning to manage it and control it, it’s important not to fear your anxiety but treat it as a part of you, remember it doesn’t have to be a negative. Travelling to South Africa last week was rather hard for me I’m not going to lie to you guys, I had a bit of a panic on my second plane journey and as soon as I got here had a mini panic about making friends and did experience a wave of anxiety for a couple of days.
Obviously it’s hard and it’s frustrating because I’ve come so far you know, I’m a changed person to how I was a few months ago and all it takes is for me to be 5,000 miles from home, on my own and I start to forget everything I’ve taught myself. 

This is why having routines and understanding yourself comes into play, all you need is a few things that you can do that will help ground you to the present. I find that the reason I get anxious or low is because I look ahead too far into the future, and forget to appreciate the present moment. Living and breathing the present is so freaking important! I preach it. As cliché as it may sound I find that this is one of the biggest ways of overcoming anxiety, and you can help yourself do this in various ways, all it takes is a bit of experimenting and time and eventually you’ll be an expert at mastering gratitude for the present moment. 

This may all sound a little mad, but I find that it has helped me considerably, even if you don’t have anxiety this is something we should all work on! So often we forget to appreciate everything happening around us now, because we’re either thinking ahead or we’re sucked into our phone screens becoming caught up in other people’s lives rather than our own!

So these are the tricks I have learnt to help become present: MEDITATION- I will always swear by meditation, even though I may not do it every day I know that by quietening your mind you will cut that thought process of worry and far-thinking and this will help ground you to the present. 
BEING OUTSIDE- I know this may sound silly but in being outside you get to appreciate more, and distract your mind, fresh air is also really good for clearing your head. Being in an enclosed room by yourself will only worsen your anxiety, get yourself outside, go for a walk and appreciate your surroundings.
FOCUS ON YOUR BREATH- again it may sound silly but simply closing your eyes and focusing on your breath will again help break the thought process of overthinking, you can seek gratitude for the health of your body and the air that you breathe. I’m not crazy I swear, it’s just the little things that can help you out here!
START WRITING A GRATITUDE JOURNAL- this will seriously help you, because writing a list of at least 3 things in the day that you’re grateful for will help ground your throughout the day, because you’ll be paying attention to the little things that make your day such as a smile from a stranger or appreciation for the book you’re reading. 

Of course you can come up with your own ways of becoming grounded and present, these are just my own personal ways of finding appreciation and calming my mind. I hope you’re all having an amazing morning, afternoon, evening or night wherever you are in the world! I’ll be back again with another post about South Africa towards the end of this week.

All my love,
HG 
(The Broken Pearl )

Healthy, Motivational Morning Routine 2019

Hello beautiful people, today although the weather is poor in Kent I still made myself go on a morning run since I knew it would make me feel more refreshed and alive… and then it started to rain as soon as I left and I got a little wet.. BUT it was still exhilarating and got me fired up for the day ahead!

Today I wanted to enlighten you all on my morning routine, which I tend to religiously stick to because I know I always feel 100 times better for doing so. So if you want to feel like a badass every day continue reading!

So what’s my secret to feeling motivated 90% of the time? (And I say 90% because I’msuccess not going to be dishonest with you all and say that I’m always happy because I’m not a good liar) I wake up and I don’t allow myself to go on my phone, comparison can quite often be the thief of joy, if you immediately wake up and focus on yourself you are going to feel more inspired and motivated to get shit done and that’s the truth. Always spend time on yourself rather than looking at what other people are doing.

Setting small goals! Next up I open up my little #success planner (because I’m that cool😎) and begin setting myself tasks to do for the day. These things can start off as small as reading your book for 15 minutes before bed, they don’t have to be huge achievements, make the goals realistic otherwise you’ll set yourself up for failure and no one wants that! For me for instance- today one of my goals was to write a new blog post which is exactly what I’m doing now, another was to hit the gym this afternoon. Even setting the goal of maintaining a positive attitude at work is an achievement, practicing mindfulness. These are all easy-going achievements that will help keep you focused and motivated throughout the day.

Get yourself hyped!✨ Next up read something motivational, on days where I’m not feeling up to reading a chapter of a book I read a quote and get inspiration from that. The importance of this is to get someone else’s perspective and guidance, use what they say or the quote that you’ve read as a mantra throughout the day, remember it carry it with you let it inspire you. For me for example, today after reading some of Oprah Winfrey’s book called What I know for Sure I felt inspired to be strong and independent, to step out of my comfort zone in order to keep improving myself!

Let the creative juices flow onto paper!⭐️ I find writing in a journal such a release for any emotional tension I may be holding onto, but also as a little motivational book that I can go back to when I’m not feeling too great in myself. After reading a chapter from my book there’s always something for me to write about, today I wrote about how recently I’ve stepped out of my comfort zone massively by deciding it’s best that I become a single lady! That was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever had to make but I know I’m better for it, I know in losing my safety net I can grow into a better person and become stronger, more sure of myself. More free.

Get going!💫 Sometimes I may meditate as well in the mornings however I often find that mediating in the evening helps more, since it allows me to alleviate myself of any stress or tension that has built up throughout the day. After journalling you can get on with your list, start going after what you love, do things that get you excited and give you energy. Fall in love with becoming the best version of yourself, and know in your heart you’re doing amazing.

All my love,

HG

(The Broken Pearl)

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Listen to your soul

Good morning beautiful world, I hope no matter where you are in the world or what time zone you’re in that you’re having a blessed day and you have found gratitude and love in everything you’ve been through.

So, today I’m talking about soul listening, and tuning into that little voice that nags inside us every now and then in order to get our attention and make us make the right decision. Some people refer to this as their gut, or their instincts, but deep down I believe this is our soul, our inner wisdom trying to guide us to make ourselves happier beings and go after what we truly desire.

Previously I have mentioned how in following what feels right you will naturally find clouds peaxe.jpgsuccess, that’s because in following the rights, not ignoring them or being blind to them and following the wrongs we are doing what our soul wants us to be doing and following that which makes us truly happy within.

What Oprah reminded my today in my daily self-help book was that when we put time and effort into things which we dislike and find no joy in, we find ourselves getting enwrapped in emotions such as anger or depression. I thought this was an interesting way to view things to be honest, and really emphasises the important of acknowledging the guidance from that little voice in our heads.

If you ever find yourself feeling, depressed or angry, maybe that’s an opporunity for you to assess the situation and ask yourself “Am I doing things that truly make me happy? What is my soul trying to tell me right now through conveying these negative emotions to me?”

The voice can often be quieted down and shut off with the more hectic external lives we lead, for me, the past couple of days have been pretty hectic, if you follow my insta you would know this @hannahzgracee (shameless self promo). In being hectic I found that I was doing less of the things that keep me grounded, keep me focused, keep me positive and following my aspirations. These things for me being my meditation, my journalling, self-help reading and planning the day.

These little things create an inner calm for me, and when you’re leading an extra busy journallingand hectic external life it’s super important to ensure you have that internal calm. Because if you’re being busy, you’re constantly in a rush, your mind will be running at 100mph, the same speed which you’ll be sprinting around trying to get everything done! And when your mind is doing this that little voice, the voice of your soul gets cut off, ignored, overlooked, and this is why so many of us fall into the trap of unhappiness. We get locked down into a job that we hate, or hang out with people who give off lower frequencies than you do.

The importance of grounding yourself, and listening to your soul is crucial to your happiness. Once you find your ways of calming your inner self, you can make changes to your outer self and create the life you’ve always dreamed of by going after those right feelings until you find success!

All my love,

HG

(The broken pearl)