The City of Love

Good evening everyone, today I wanted to write something a little different. One of my goals for the end of this year was to travel somewhere, I achieved a very big goal this June by travelling to South Africa and back alone, but I wanted to get myself out of the country this winter and I did just that.

You can probably guess by the cliche title where this destination was… of course it was PARIS.

Paris sparked something new in me, every experience in life teaches us new things and this experience made me learn new things about my partner. So here’s me giving some relationship advise for a change rather than talking about myself.

Personally, I am a relationship girl, I easily get on with guys and that’s sometimes a pain since I would love to have more guy friends but they always seem to get the wrong end of the stick, if you know what I mean.

Anyway, recently I came across a famous video of Cher and she had said how ‘men are not a necessity, they are a luxury. Like dessert’ she then proceeded to go on with ‘my experience with men is great because I pick them because I like them, not because I need them...’

And this really resonated with me, you know, some people would consider me very fortunate with the relationship I have with my boyfriend. Because he’s not just my boyfriend, he’s my best friend, my favourite person to do spontaneous stupid shit with, be reckless and enjoy life with.

Paris made me realise how fortunate I am in love, and I believe it all comes from the way I view men. I mean, me and Luke were a complete accident! We met in a club randomly and got together, I intrigued him with my stubbornness to get with him so he asked me on a date and things just sparked.

I think for anyone who’s longing for love out there, patience is key, but also the willingness to give something a try, the willingness to take a risk but don’t put your heart on the line. I didn’t set things off with Luke as though he was going to be my boyfriend, I move to people based on their energy and he buzzes on a high frequency which I vibe with.

Always remember, men are a luxury not a necessity. Love yourself before trying to love someone else, otherwise how are you ever going to give anything to someone when you don’t have it within yourself.

Any love starts from within. You’ll attract what you are.

All my love,

HG

YOU’RE WORTHY

So we all know how it is to feel worthless and useless right? If you haven’t you’re a very fortunate person and I envy you considerably. But often what we don’t realise is that the reason we feel worthless is due to the fact that we allow other people too much control over our emotions, we rely on their opinion of us to affirm our own opinion of ourselves… and that’s not good. 

This post today is about taking that control back, and never allowing anyone else’s opinion of you to topple your own, never allow anyone that pink plane windowpower over you. This is especially evident in relationships. How many young girls rely on some dirty trash of a guy’s opinion in order to feel fulfilled and good enough? Why should we allow someone the power to control how we feel? The answer is we should NOT. 

Recently for me after going through a breakup I allowed myself to become lower in self-worth because of this one dude I met like 3 times. This guy intimidated me, he was older, very ambitious and successful. Consequently I thought he was a rather arrogant person, which can obviously become unattractive when not in moderation. So this intimidation and feeling that he was better than me (since he’d been so successful) led to me believing that I had no worth and that everything I had made for myself through my blog and YouTube was useless. All this from meeting up with a guy 3 bloody times!!!

It’s like I forgot all about ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’ and that I control my own worth, no one else should be given that control. The problem was I allowed this dude the power to change my worth, making me forget how freaking amazing I am, making me doubtful and lowering my overall frequency. 

pink cloudsNow, I know I am not the only girl that has had this experience with boys that they’re seeing. If you’re feeling low and depressed due to a guy who isn’t showing or giving you the attention you so rightfully deserve, get rid of him, throw him in the trash. You and you alone set the bar for what you deserve. If you believe you deserve someone who is lazy with no ambition you’ll attract and accept people like that. You’re better than that, you deserve to set that bar as high as you can, and don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are a bad b*tch, an independent woman, who does not need a mans attention and appreciation to feel whole. 

I just feel like so many of us fall into this trap, subconsciously. I mean I would say I’m a pretty strong young lady and even I get sucked into this vicious circle. I think at the end of the day we all like the attention, but we deserve the best sort of attention, not the arse who isn’t giving you the love you deserve. 

Remember this ladies and gents, I think we all need to hear it sometimes. 

All my love, 

HG

(The Broken Pearl)