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Resilience

This is a word that I had and still do struggle to come to terms with every now and then.

I’m the sort of girl that wants to be resilient through everything, push through the hard days, hold a straight face at rude clients and keep my head high when I do something wrong.

But, truth is I do struggle every now and then. But I’m human, we all do.

Today at work I witnessed someone have a bit of a breakdown, and I felt that. I haven’t had one (at least not publicly at work🥴) but I empathised with that on a level!

It made me realise how good it is sometimes to cry it out, to get rid of all that stress and built up emotion in one big wave… then it crashes down onto the shore and you feel a little more at peace again.

Sometimes it’s like that, we want to be strong and resilient through it all but we must remember that it’s okay to have a moment every now and then.

Today I was reading a really amazing blog about female entrepreneurs, and you know what I was super inspired by these women.

It made me realise that my resilience and faith in the not yet seen must be super strong in times like this.

Times of uncertainty and change are some of the greatest times in our lives, we’re bound to have wobbles. But it’s the faith, it’s the reliance that keeps us going and that’s what makes an entrepreneur and that’s everything I inspire to become!

On my morning walk today I listened to a new podcast, I can’t remember the dudes name but regardless of that he was speaking about the difference between FAITH and CONFIDENCE.

He was explaining how we may not always have the confidence to do things, we may never have the confidence to do something. But that doesn’t matter, because if you have faith that everything is going to work out you will be RESILIENT and you will make it work.

That’s something I will try to live by now, because if you’re constantly waiting for that confidence to do something, there’s a good chance it’ll never come. There’s too many ‘what ifs’.

If you have faith, anything is possible, and faith makes you resilient.

All my love,

HG

A little appreciation post

Hello everyone, I hope you’re having a beautiful; morning, afternoon, evening or night no matter where you are in the world!

I wanted to write a post today about something that some of you may be able to relate to, and that is insomnia and sleeplessness. It’s literally something that is constantly the pain of my life and it’s a nightmare to deal with sometimes.

It doesn’t just affect me, if my boyfriend is to sleep over at my place there’s a 99% I’ll be keeping him up with me as I’m rolling around like a marooned whale trying to calm my restlessness and get comfortable. When you’re both working full time it’s not reallyyyy ideal to be going in on 3 hours sleep, but that was the case for us both on Monday morning this week. I couldn’t appreciate you more Luke for putting up with me, I know you’re reading this.

Why does insomnia happen? Ding ding, the bell for anxiety rings once again. I know this may not be the only cause, but for me I’m pretty sure this is at the core of it all. Whether it’s anxiety from overthinking the following day, or anxiety that I’ll get woken in the night (because I’m such a light sleeper) or whether it’s simply because I’m counting down the hours until I need to be awake again.

Although this is a pain, and it’s something I’m slowly trying to cope with, through meditation and reading before bed to calm my mind, I flip this negative into a positive because it makes me have a deeper appreciation for my body. Even on 3 hours of sleep yesterday I was able to be seriouslyyyy productive at my new job, and I didn’t even need a coffee to help me!

I was able to function, my legs held me up, my brain managed to stay focused, my eyes willingly stayed open and I still found the motivation and energy to do a mini workout at home that evening.

Now if that isn’t strength I don’t know what is!

For you mothers or fathers out there I’m sure you’re more adapted to this sleepless cycle, and I’m sure there are times when you couldn’t pray more for a decent nights sleep. But if anything should keep you positive and motivated, it’s that your body won’t give up on you, it will keep going, it will keep you moving and it will hold through.

Staying strong mentally and telling yourself you are capable of doing something changes your physical world too.

If anyone as any tips for insomnia or sleeplessness please do let me know, either shoot me an email or write a comment for me, I’d love to hear your suggestions!

All my love,

HG

Making Judgements

So after a bit of a tiring week (since I started a new job), which I am super proud of myself for getting… I didn’t really know what to write about. I’ve been absorbing so much new information that my brain has just been overloaded, but in a good way, I love learning new things and being challenged so for me this is really cool. After going on a run this evening something suddenly clicked for me, I wasn’t even particularly thinking about it but it makes sense to write about.

See when I was job searching I struggled because I know I’m an intelligent individual with tons of potential, yet a lack of degree and experience in the necessary fields… Therefore I struggled to accept that I might have to start from the bottom and work my way up career wise. Butttttttttt, there’s nothing at all wrong with that.

My point is, is that I was judging myself for not starting my dream job immediately. So that’s what this post is about, I think the trouble is, some of us (and I know it can’t just be me) are so hard on ourselves and hard on other people because we are too judgmental about a situation that we are currently in that we end up producing this negative energy (which by the way doesn’t look good on anyone who wears it).

By observing everything with optimism, and positivity we automatically start being easier on ourselves too. What I’m trying to say is to stop judging other people and you will in turn stop judging yourself. If you laugh at an overweight person with your friends as you walk past them in the street chances are you look at yourself in the mirror and claim how ‘fat’ you are. Your insecurities reflect in how you perceive other people, and it just creates such negativity.

The moment I stopped judging myself for starting up in a career that I knew I didn’t want to do for life, just; something to get me going, a foot in the door of an amazing company with endless opportunities the Universe granted me with that something.

Am I making any sense? I hope so, I tend to type at the speed of my mind, and that runs pretty fast sometimes!

“Stop judging other people and you will stop judging yourself.”

Making your mentality so much more healthy, and making you more of an attractive person to other people! Try it for a day, challenge yourself to be more open minded, not closed off with judgements on why people are the way they are or look the way the look. That’s not for you to judge. Be positive and sympathetic, and great things will follow.

All my love,

HG

A lesson

Good morning beautiful world, how is everyone? I have to say I’m in higher spirits than I have been this week, and that’s something. Recently I’ve had the time to think a lot about everything, and I remembered something Oprah Winfrey had said in her book- What I know for sure.

… and that is that in everything there is a lesson. Whether something good or bad is currently happening in your life there is always something positive to learn from it. It’s easy for me to say- “I wish I hadn’t taken that job a month ago (which I worked in for only 2 days due to its toxic nature)”, and although I have a right to feel that way I’m looking at it with my negative spectacles on… and we all know that’s not good.

If we switch to the positive spectacles, we can say- “this is good because…” and it changes everything. Within everything in life there is a positive, whether your cats just died or you got fired from your job there is always something to take from that which is a lesson, and with that you can work from it and make something amazing happen.

“Everything- and I really mean EVERYTHING in life happens for a reason.”

You can make that reason whatever you want, because you have the power to change your life for the better, every day when you wake up you choose how you’re going to live your day. Choose love and happiness over negativity. Choose joy over frustration and anger.

It’s not always easy to remember, and trust me I forget too! I forget on some days, and it’s easy to when things get hard. Unemployment is literally my worst fear and I’m living in it currently! But you have to see things with the positive glasses on. We can all do this no matter what you’re living with. And the biggest lesson of all to learn?

Patience.

Patience is a virtue, it’s not easy especially when you’re living in a world which is running at 100000 miles per hour all the time. But good things come to those who wait, and you can’t rush a master piece. Maintain that faith that better things are coming, live each day with positivity, radiate love and joy and you’ll see.

When it happens it happens, but you’ll look back and realise that your patience paid off.

All my love,

HG

Pat yourself on the back

Hello beautiful readers, and a happy monday to you all! Who else remembers being told to do this at their primary school? After any little activity or small achievement we would be told to congratulate ourselves, appreciate that we had done well and then move forward.

Why am I talking about this? Because I feel like it’s become habit for so many of us to ignore the small achievements we’ve made, and only focus on the large and most ‘life-changing.’ The trouble is with this is that we’re left with a sense of never being satisfied, always wanting more, bigger, better.

Sometimes it can even stop us pursuing those things which we really want, our biggest dreams and goals because we believe they are so unattainable, out of reach. When really, if we’d payed attention and noted all the baby steps we were already making towards them then we would realise that we’re on our way there.

To be honest this is how I’ve been feeling recently, a little defeated you know. One of the ways I find helps me when I’m feeling a little lost, or feeling as though everything I desire is so far from my grasp is I remember all the little things I have achieved. Things such as starting this very blog! This was a major thing for me this year, yet I so often over-look it because it’s become part of routine now. I can tell you that setting up a website is not easy people, it was a mission and a half to do this, yet still I forget to pat myself on the back for it.

Another achievement is over-coming the worst of my anxiety. You know I’ve vowed to myself I will never allow myself to sink that low again, all the counselling, all the meditation, all the mind-training was worth it. Yet I still forget to pat myself on the back for it. If I could take myself back to how I was feeling in January of this year I know I was begging to feel this normal on a daily basis like I am now, rather than so up tight and miserable.

Whenever things are getting a little hard, whether you’re going through a break-up, mourning a loved one or are stressed for exams, remember to pat yourself on the back for the little things. If you’re struggling with a break-up, pat yourself on the back for the first day you’re strong enough not to cry. If you’re mourning someone you love, pat yourself on the back for the day you actually get out of bed. If you’re stressed for exams, pat yourself on the back for the that time you nailed that one practice paper.

Because the little things matter, heck, they matter the most, because if we didn’t appreciate them we wouldn’t be able to reach the bigger goals. Don’t overlook them or become blind to them, embrace them, and keep progressing.

All my love,

HG

Believing before seeing

So this week I really didn’t know what to write. Shocking. I have been staring at a blank screen for the past 4 days knowing that I should have already posted one blog post and a second one should be underway. But, I have cut myself a little slack and decided not to be too hard on myself.

Truth be told I just have not been feeling motivational enough to write on here, and considering my blog is all about self-help and positivity it didn’t seem fitting that I came on here with shit that wasn’t true from the heart and could actually benefit you guys. That’s when I remembered that by writing I actually become more motivated.

I mean duh, I used to write in my journal every morning in order to phyche myself up for the day ahead to get my mindset focused and the positivity goggles on. But recently I’d stopped doing that, I’ve broken my routine which I had followed religeously for months and it shows on the inside.

On the outside I look just the same, fit, healthy, pretty, whatever. But on the inside, I’ve been on a little roller-coaster of emotions, and this is when I know that I’m losing track a little bit, and fuck falling back into the black hole of misery again, I am never going back there.

So I’ve just picked up one of my favourite books- You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero and have decided to go through it and pick out some of my favourite parts to not only inspire you guys but inspire myself because I freaking need that too.

I’ve gone straight to a page which has been folded, a reminder to myself to come back to this as it’s a juicy part. Sincero’s words of wisdom are…

“The moment you have the audacity to start believing in the not-yet seen, your reality will begin to shift.”

Jen Sincero (The oracle)

I loveeeeee this, the whole concept being that as a society we have everything the wrong way round. We expect to see things before we believe them. But by believing before seeing you are essentially making those things a reality.

This is for the good and bad beliefs, and it’s why whenever my friends are talking negatively about something or creating bad thoughts about something that hasn’t happened I tell them to stop. Because in belieiving something you look for it and it becomes a reality.

You need to have faith in the not-yet seen, and good things will follow. This is essentially the Law of Attraction, and if you don’t know what that is you need to do your research because it’s life-changing.

The energy you put out into the world, you get back. Do yourself a favour and start believing in things that haven’t happened and do everything you can to work towards those things, and the Universe will gift you in time.

Bit of a random one, but I’m just keeping it real with you all, have a beautiful morning, afternoon, evening or night and rememeber to love yourself, because someone needed to hear that today.

All my love,

HG

Fear of the unsuccessful

You know I was asked recently what I was most scared of. Initially I couldn’t think of anything since I’m not the kind of girl who winces at spiders or faints at the sight of blood. For me I’ve always been fearful of being unsuccessful, and I think this is where the whole concept of pressuring myself comes into action.

You see, I take things too seriously sometimes because I’m always striving for more. I’m rarely satisfied because I love to push myself to the maximum, and if I’m working/studying something unfulfilling it really affects me, and I find myself getting frustrated because I’m not at my full potential.

Along with working on living with uncertainty I’m working on living in the present. It’s super important for me and my mental well-being to appreciate the journey, because success doesn’t often happen over-night. I suppose it depends what you determine as ‘success’ too. If success was waking up in the morning with a positive outlook every day I would be successful a lot of the time.

I think part of the problem with my generation is that there’s always a want/need for more. This is due to constant comparison. What we forget is that we should be working towards bettering our lives for ourselves! Not for anyone else, not to be able to compare further and judge each other’s achievements. We are all running our own race in our own time. Love the journey and embrace it, believe that you will make it and you will.

All my love,

HG