M.I.A

Hello beautiful readers. I want to start off with an apology, I was missing in action last week and I’ll do some explaining on that pretty soon. In complete honesty I wasn’t feeling all myself, and as I’ve said before if I’m not feeling motivated and inspired I don’t feel it’s right to write to you lot and put that negativity out to the world. I’m here to promote love and endless possibilities, not sadness and lost hope.

So, I believe my last post may have been about finding a new job, am I correct? If not it was one of my most recent ones, so if you haven’t read it yet this is me telling you to do so:) . Yes, last week I started this new job, and I went into it a little blinded I suppose, I knew I could make good money if I worked hard at it, and this money would help fund the business of my dreams and help me accumulate the skills I needed to be a leader. So why was I so miserable last week that I couldn’t write when I was starting something that could potentially take me to where I wanted to be?

Because we all know I go off energies and vibes, for me happiness is a soul priority. Some people may think I’m stupid for following these emotions but in my mind if I’m going to be working crazy hours and losing my social life for a job which I don’t partiuarly enjoy, I’d be stupid to stay.

Sometimes things don’t go to plan, and life loves throwing hurdles to test us with how badly we want something. I know that I’m going to be living the life I’ve always craved in a decade from now, I don’t care how long it takes, but I know I’m going to get there. It’s all about maintaining your trust in the Universe and yourself, believe its yours and you’ve got it.

So last week I spent the time to pick myself up and dust myself off, I had my time of wallowing in sadness and getting all emotional because things didn’t seem to be going the way I wanted them to. Today marks a new week, a new start, a new chapter. It’s time to start something new, recentre myself, and remain a badass.

Often when things don’t go how I want, and I seem to be in a bit of a troubled state I always remember Jen Sincero’s book How to Be a Badass, the chapter about the EGO. The EGO will throw obstacles into your life to challenge you and sway you from what you really want, forcing you out of your comfort zone and scaring you into submission. (No the ego is not some menacing monsterous presence, this is all phycological shit). I remember her story about some guy who really wanted to open his own business, so he quit his job which was the first step, then he managed to get two flat tires leaving work, his babysitter ran into his wifes car, the water main under his kithen sink exploded and to top it all off he got hit by a freaking bus. But he still never gave up.

If that doesn’t inspire you I don’t know what will. I need to stick to the plan and keep being myself, that’s all I can do, the Universe will reward me eventually, I just have to keep progressing, keep moving in the right direction. Fall in love with the process of becoming the best version of yourself, because the end result will be amazing.

All my love,

HG

YOU’RE WORTHY

So we all know how it is to feel worthless and useless right? If you haven’t you’re a very fortunate person and I envy you considerably. But often what we don’t realise is that the reason we feel worthless is due to the fact that we allow other people too much control over our emotions, we rely on their opinion of us to affirm our own opinion of ourselves… and that’s not good. 

This post today is about taking that control back, and never allowing anyone else’s opinion of you to topple your own, never allow anyone that pink plane windowpower over you. This is especially evident in relationships. How many young girls rely on some dirty trash of a guy’s opinion in order to feel fulfilled and good enough? Why should we allow someone the power to control how we feel? The answer is we should NOT. 

Recently for me after going through a breakup I allowed myself to become lower in self-worth because of this one dude I met like 3 times. This guy intimidated me, he was older, very ambitious and successful. Consequently I thought he was a rather arrogant person, which can obviously become unattractive when not in moderation. So this intimidation and feeling that he was better than me (since he’d been so successful) led to me believing that I had no worth and that everything I had made for myself through my blog and YouTube was useless. All this from meeting up with a guy 3 bloody times!!!

It’s like I forgot all about ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’ and that I control my own worth, no one else should be given that control. The problem was I allowed this dude the power to change my worth, making me forget how freaking amazing I am, making me doubtful and lowering my overall frequency. 

pink cloudsNow, I know I am not the only girl that has had this experience with boys that they’re seeing. If you’re feeling low and depressed due to a guy who isn’t showing or giving you the attention you so rightfully deserve, get rid of him, throw him in the trash. You and you alone set the bar for what you deserve. If you believe you deserve someone who is lazy with no ambition you’ll attract and accept people like that. You’re better than that, you deserve to set that bar as high as you can, and don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are a bad b*tch, an independent woman, who does not need a mans attention and appreciation to feel whole. 

I just feel like so many of us fall into this trap, subconsciously. I mean I would say I’m a pretty strong young lady and even I get sucked into this vicious circle. I think at the end of the day we all like the attention, but we deserve the best sort of attention, not the arse who isn’t giving you the love you deserve. 

Remember this ladies and gents, I think we all need to hear it sometimes. 

All my love, 

HG

(The Broken Pearl)