Pat yourself on the back

Hello beautiful readers, and a happy monday to you all! Who else remembers being told to do this at their primary school? After any little activity or small achievement we would be told to congratulate ourselves, appreciate that we had done well and then move forward.

Why am I talking about this? Because I feel like it’s become habit for so many of us to ignore the small achievements we’ve made, and only focus on the large and most ‘life-changing.’ The trouble is with this is that we’re left with a sense of never being satisfied, always wanting more, bigger, better.

Sometimes it can even stop us pursuing those things which we really want, our biggest dreams and goals because we believe they are so unattainable, out of reach. When really, if we’d payed attention and noted all the baby steps we were already making towards them then we would realise that we’re on our way there.

To be honest this is how I’ve been feeling recently, a little defeated you know. One of the ways I find helps me when I’m feeling a little lost, or feeling as though everything I desire is so far from my grasp is I remember all the little things I have achieved. Things such as starting this very blog! This was a major thing for me this year, yet I so often over-look it because it’s become part of routine now. I can tell you that setting up a website is not easy people, it was a mission and a half to do this, yet still I forget to pat myself on the back for it.

Another achievement is over-coming the worst of my anxiety. You know I’ve vowed to myself I will never allow myself to sink that low again, all the counselling, all the meditation, all the mind-training was worth it. Yet I still forget to pat myself on the back for it. If I could take myself back to how I was feeling in January of this year I know I was begging to feel this normal on a daily basis like I am now, rather than so up tight and miserable.

Whenever things are getting a little hard, whether you’re going through a break-up, mourning a loved one or are stressed for exams, remember to pat yourself on the back for the little things. If you’re struggling with a break-up, pat yourself on the back for the first day you’re strong enough not to cry. If you’re mourning someone you love, pat yourself on the back for the day you actually get out of bed. If you’re stressed for exams, pat yourself on the back for the that time you nailed that one practice paper.

Because the little things matter, heck, they matter the most, because if we didn’t appreciate them we wouldn’t be able to reach the bigger goals. Don’t overlook them or become blind to them, embrace them, and keep progressing.

All my love,

HG

Leap of faith

Hello beautiful readers, today I felt inspired to write since I’m making another big step in my life which is going to really shake things up for me for a while. I’ve got a full time job.

Now some of you may be confused, if you’ve read my stuff for a while now you would know I was all for going back to college, smashing out more education and pursuing something I love. The thing is, I wrote out a list of goals for the long and short-term months and months ago, probably at the start of this year. It dawned on me that in order to pursue these goals I needed to learn a lot of skills, which would only be defferred if I started studying again.

One of the biggest goals on this list is for me to create my own brand, the basic concept being to benefit the environment as much as possible. I love wildlife and the Earth itself, just because I’m no longer going to be studying it doesn’t change that! That is still the goal. I just have to keep my eyes on the prize.

Sometimes we have to work hard at something and learn as much as we can from that to benefit ourselves in the long-term. Life is all about learning new things, it’s how we progress as I said in my most recent post! I want to learn how to manage, learn as many skills as I can, until I’m confident enough to go out there and manage something that I’m really really passionate about.

I’m a 19 year old with some pretty big goals, not dreams, goals.

All it takes is being focused enough to achieve them. Never lose sight of what you desire, and never lose sight of what makes you authentic. It’s super important for me personally to hold onto that. In a high intensity job where I will be under pressure I need to keep my cool and hold onto my beliefs.

This opportunity excites me yet scares me simultaneously, and that’s how I know I should go for it. Because although my anxiety may be bad for a little while, I know it’s only because I’m out of my comfort zone, I’ve become accustomed to a very flexible way of living and that’s about to change. But it doesn’t mean it’ll be that way forever, I mean when I’m running my own business and I’m the highest you can get on that ladder I can have my flexiblity back.

Nothing is set in stone, everything is temporary. Embrace the moment and make every second count, work towards your goals and keep smiling.

All my love,

HG