A fresh Start – Resolutions

Good evening beautiful humans, I hope you’ve all had an amazing day! Today was the first day back at work doing a full shift, we’d been finishing earlier for Christmas all of last week so today did feel slightly longer. But I’m feeling super motivated recently, all because we’re moving into a new year and a fresh start…

Do you believe in resolutions? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with them, however I do think a tendency for a lot of the population is to make these resolutions to better ourselves and we start off great, were working hard and pushing ourselves and then it’s almost as though the novelty wears off and things slow down and eventually we lose the habit we were never able to build to achieve the things we really wanted to.

It’s happened to me too, I mean I was saying all of last year how badly I wanted to renovate my bedroom and never did it, even when I started earning more, for some reason it was never one of my top priorities. Why? Because I didn’t put in the time, I didn’t make the effort to manifest this and make it a reality.

This month, no matter what, I will be starting this goal of mine. I may be slightly poor for January because of it but the sense of satisfaction I will feel once completed will be wayyyyy worth it.

What’s one of your resolutions? I mean, a cliche one would be to live a healthier lifestyle right? You know, I get people on a regular basis ask me how I stay healthy and why I eat clean and how I go to the gym every day. It’s all about developing habits, which isn’t easy, because you have to be motivated.

Resolutions are just resolutions. Goals are just goals… unless you put in the time and are prepared to motivate yourself to get the results you wish for! It’s easy really, you just have to remind yourself daily, keep yourself inspired, talk about your goals with others, motivate each other whatever it is that will keep you centered and focused.

For me, like many people I write a list of all my resolutions; setting them out into travel achievements, material achievements and personal achievements that I would like to meet. Once I’ve done this I create a vision board, envision those things you want to achieve, what will you be doing, how will you be feeling, what will you be wearing, who will be around you?

I think vision boards are amazing, because when your mind can envision exactly what it is you desire, it gives it something to work toward, the Universe will naturally help you manifest these things.

After this, every day, and I mean every single day I will write a list of things I want to achieve. These are what I would consider my ‘baby steps’ these are the small achievements that take me to the big goals that were on the resolution list.

By continually referring back to the resolution list daily when writing these this will help you stay on track, focused and determined.

Something else to take into consideration is that you can treat every day as a fresh start! If one day doesn’t go as planned, don’t give up and break that habit. Remember that tomorrow is a new day, it’s a day to reinvent yourself, there’s always a chance to change, usually it’ll be yourself that’s getting in your way.

Get writing your resolutions if you haven’t already and set them in motion, it’s time to make our 2020 visions a reality.

All my love,

HG

Making Judgements

So after a bit of a tiring week (since I started a new job), which I am super proud of myself for getting… I didn’t really know what to write about. I’ve been absorbing so much new information that my brain has just been overloaded, but in a good way, I love learning new things and being challenged so for me this is really cool. After going on a run this evening something suddenly clicked for me, I wasn’t even particularly thinking about it but it makes sense to write about.

See when I was job searching I struggled because I know I’m an intelligent individual with tons of potential, yet a lack of degree and experience in the necessary fields… Therefore I struggled to accept that I might have to start from the bottom and work my way up career wise. Butttttttttt, there’s nothing at all wrong with that.

My point is, is that I was judging myself for not starting my dream job immediately. So that’s what this post is about, I think the trouble is, some of us (and I know it can’t just be me) are so hard on ourselves and hard on other people because we are too judgmental about a situation that we are currently in that we end up producing this negative energy (which by the way doesn’t look good on anyone who wears it).

By observing everything with optimism, and positivity we automatically start being easier on ourselves too. What I’m trying to say is to stop judging other people and you will in turn stop judging yourself. If you laugh at an overweight person with your friends as you walk past them in the street chances are you look at yourself in the mirror and claim how ‘fat’ you are. Your insecurities reflect in how you perceive other people, and it just creates such negativity.

The moment I stopped judging myself for starting up in a career that I knew I didn’t want to do for life, just; something to get me going, a foot in the door of an amazing company with endless opportunities the Universe granted me with that something.

Am I making any sense? I hope so, I tend to type at the speed of my mind, and that runs pretty fast sometimes!

“Stop judging other people and you will stop judging yourself.”

Making your mentality so much more healthy, and making you more of an attractive person to other people! Try it for a day, challenge yourself to be more open minded, not closed off with judgements on why people are the way they are or look the way the look. That’s not for you to judge. Be positive and sympathetic, and great things will follow.

All my love,

HG

Pat yourself on the back

Hello beautiful readers, and a happy monday to you all! Who else remembers being told to do this at their primary school? After any little activity or small achievement we would be told to congratulate ourselves, appreciate that we had done well and then move forward.

Why am I talking about this? Because I feel like it’s become habit for so many of us to ignore the small achievements we’ve made, and only focus on the large and most ‘life-changing.’ The trouble is with this is that we’re left with a sense of never being satisfied, always wanting more, bigger, better.

Sometimes it can even stop us pursuing those things which we really want, our biggest dreams and goals because we believe they are so unattainable, out of reach. When really, if we’d payed attention and noted all the baby steps we were already making towards them then we would realise that we’re on our way there.

To be honest this is how I’ve been feeling recently, a little defeated you know. One of the ways I find helps me when I’m feeling a little lost, or feeling as though everything I desire is so far from my grasp is I remember all the little things I have achieved. Things such as starting this very blog! This was a major thing for me this year, yet I so often over-look it because it’s become part of routine now. I can tell you that setting up a website is not easy people, it was a mission and a half to do this, yet still I forget to pat myself on the back for it.

Another achievement is over-coming the worst of my anxiety. You know I’ve vowed to myself I will never allow myself to sink that low again, all the counselling, all the meditation, all the mind-training was worth it. Yet I still forget to pat myself on the back for it. If I could take myself back to how I was feeling in January of this year I know I was begging to feel this normal on a daily basis like I am now, rather than so up tight and miserable.

Whenever things are getting a little hard, whether you’re going through a break-up, mourning a loved one or are stressed for exams, remember to pat yourself on the back for the little things. If you’re struggling with a break-up, pat yourself on the back for the first day you’re strong enough not to cry. If you’re mourning someone you love, pat yourself on the back for the day you actually get out of bed. If you’re stressed for exams, pat yourself on the back for the that time you nailed that one practice paper.

Because the little things matter, heck, they matter the most, because if we didn’t appreciate them we wouldn’t be able to reach the bigger goals. Don’t overlook them or become blind to them, embrace them, and keep progressing.

All my love,

HG